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Non-Muslim Woman: Should You Marry a Muslim Man?

12 Oct 2009 02:47 PM

Allah SWT guides whoever He wills. ISLAM IS A WAY OF LIVING and it means peace. Many people dont understand tht this earth is not heavan, where you can have everything. Thts why Allah brought Islam to this world to live a better to reach Heaven. Only way to go to Heaven is through struggle in this life.

Non-Muslim Woman: Should You Marry a Muslim Man?

14 Jul 2009 10:13 AM

(To the muslims sisters) Salam, I just have to say tht we as muslim in America, Australia, Europe, and other part of the countries, we should really be concerned of the tragedy of whats happenong in the middle east by occupation of the power countries such as non muslim countries, which I mentioned above. Many of our muslim people are homeless, threatened to have our identity as muslims, dishonouring our muslim women by RAPING her by USA government, European, and many other armies, and playing with our muslim children as TOYS. they are the ones that keep our mouth shut for speaking the truth and being muslim, submitting to Allah, which is Islam, by pointing their guns at our fellow muslim sisters and brothers, which law are we following is it super power countries or Allah? Who is the best helper for all different creation, is the nonmuslim country or Allah? Of course we muslim sisters and bvrothers know the answer, is Allah. So when there are muslim sisters, brothers, and children shouting our name, we just sit down, sleep on a cozy bed of America, oh yah, and especially fight other muslims tht are so called RADICAL or ISLAMIST, like Taliban, now soon to be Pakistan, a muslim country. I just have to say to my muslim sisters and brothers tht I am a muslim and I am loved by many different muslims in my community. I come to agreeing in terms with them and they come to agreeing in terms with me. Many of them are African, Pakistani, American converted (SINCERELY, WHOLEHEARTED, mind, heart and soul submitted to The Creator above all, God[(((((((((ALLAH!!!!!!!!!!!)))))))]) to muslim and not to look to get married, to please ALLAH with sweats, tears, and blood, and Turkish. They tell me, "how did you obtain so much knowledge?" I tell them by going through hardships, real difficulties of my life by patient, from Allah. and learning alot about how Spain develop its civilization through muslim universities, very smart muslims, and the dark ages of Europe. There is no CREDIT to ISLAM. We shouldnt be thinking of marrying the women the are the enemies of Allah and killed many of us muslims, even at the time of crusaders. Christianity have killed many people, muslims also. Throughout their history they have killed 10,000 many more by today, because of bombing Afghanistan, killing Iraqi civilian and left them hungry, now its PAKISTAN and Iran turns(by the help of Obama, who is also a MUSLIM, SHOCKING!!. He sure did messed his life up, may Allah have mercy on him). we shouldn't marry those tht help them or even live in their land. I am not RADICAL. I am a born chaste MUSLIM woman, thts my identity. I am so surprised tht no muslim sisters or brothers have said anything to tht muslim sister tht defamed one of our muslim sister infront of the enemies of Allah, the NONMUSLIM. I am so disappointed in my muslim sister and brothers tht they did not protect my muslim sister being defamed and dishonoured of her thoughts. Have you muslims fallen into WESTERNIZATION, which capitalism fail to stabilize the societies, survival of the fittest, and dog eat dog world or is it submission and our duy is to Allah. No, its westernization or POP CULTURE, right? No you are wrong, muslim sisters and muslim brothers, isn't as a muslim we should look pleasing to Allah (to do whats right and forbid what evil), following The Quran and Sunnah of Prophet (RSW) by fufilling our duties as muslims. At Day of Judgement (when this world will end), who will we look up to USA Government, how about European Government or is it Allah? What will you say to Allah, when a child will go infront of Allah and say, "I had cried for my Ummah, but there was no respond." Allah will come to to you, Oh muslim sisters and brothers, because He knows there was a part of this child which where was your obligations and responsibilties laid. What will you say? Remember muslim sisters and brothers on this Day there is no place to hide or run we will all be standing still and humiliated, tht means we will never have the best answer tht we can think of tht will change Allah's wrath, but it will be the long extended period of The Prophet Muhammad (RSW) only, then can we as muslim fulfill our duty to sustain our obligations and make our ummah stronger?

Now, I just have to say to the muslim sister tht defamed one of our muslim sister with her thought and ideas, How dare you? Did you know there is a saying when you point at someone there are three fingers pointing right back at you from your own hand. I remember a hadith when I was reading your comment. In this hadtih Prophet Muhammad (RSW) is warning his Ummah of the evils of society. In his time he says to his ummah tht "I dont want to hear slanders of another muslim or bad qualities, because when I approach to this muslim I dont want there to be bad feelings in my heart for this muslim." (Where is the LOVE for our ummah, OR are we looking for our DIMPLOMA? What about our obligations and duties, first.!!!!!!! So based on your ideas and her ideas, can't you come to TERMS with your muslim sister. This sister says her SHAHADAH and prays, right? So there is your test from Allah to strive in difficulties with the support of your muslim sisters in order to fulfill your duties as muslim to please Allah and not to please the enemies of Allah. The nonmuslim have made it CLEAR from historys tht it is WAR on ISLAM they dont look to please Allah, but always to complain about their hard times in their lives and ISLAM. We as muslim, who we should fulfill our duties to Allah, should never take the enemies of Allah as friends and ESPECIALLY SPOUSES. I pray Allah saves you.

I was afraid of posting my thoughts, and opinion of what pleases my Lord, but I am not, because I fear Allah and his punishments. So I am not afraid of USA government, their tanks, man made laws, and guns. And I am also not afraid of you muslim brothers and sisters, because you are already afraid of doing whats right and forbidding what is evil ESPECIALLY for our Ummah, you have proven to tht muslim sister, who you defamed, tht there is no protection for her in our Ummah(which is not true) and you dont fear Allah even for tht. There is a hadith where it says, "you are not a true believer until you love for your brothers what you love for yourselves. It eventually goes the same for muslim sisers. My heart broke again after a long time when I read tht muslim sister defaming the other muslim sister's opinions. She just couldn't put her ideas with the other muslim sister's ideas into TERMS.

Now, to all the nonmusllim women who married or not married to muslim men, but interested. Hello! It is true tht all muslim men were trained to love and respect mother first, second mother, and third mother, then every other relatives. Above all the relatives and especially the wife. First is the mother, second is the mother, third is the mother, then forth is the father. In fact, the sons of mothers are sincerely and undoubtly respectful and honourable to their mothers more than the daughters, because the care she needs the most from are male relatives. When the parents of the son gets him married to a righteous woman, then her son, out of love and concern for his mother, (who nurtured him from the time she conceived him in her womb, and give him values tht makes him strong and smart man, and most IMPORTANTLY had patince with him and taught him The Quran and gave him lessons and was always with him when she faced difficulties throughout his teenage years) he automatically and effortlessly respond to his mother's need till the time even as she gets older. She is always in his heart, mind, and kept in her son's home protected and provided from her son or sons. Particularly, this value of the family, should never die out, and if it did there are punishments include, it is disgrace in the ummah and ISLAM STATE, and he, the son, has forgotten all values of what made him a man, his identity forgotten(he has replaced his mother with his wife, which is a DISGRACE to not to care attain to the elderly) You non muslim dont have any value of your own to care for such a family. From the time you were little you were never disciplined, you carry out with friends and ignore your mother's assignments. You disobey your mother and call annoying when she knocks on your door. You say in your life you are busy you show such disrespect. You complain alot and demand to much. How can you marry a MUSLIM MAN? No matter how cruel, annoying, or pain in the neck, she can be(accepting tht is keeping up to the value) her son is always there for him. This muslim man is a true believer and everybody falls in love with him from the farthest parts of lands, because of the values he keeps of his mother, and an exchange to provide her with everything throughout her aging into old ages. He protects and provides his sisters as well. There are no such thing as retirement homes for the elderlys in muslim countries. Straight out to the point no nonmuslim women are capable of living in tht kind of homes, where there are values kept in every hearts and minds of every muslim relatives, sisters, and brothers. Our motto is always keeping it together through thick and thin no matter what and always keeping evil outside of our homes. Muslim women have the patiences and capabilities unlike the nonmuslims, because she has grown within her family circle with all this values and lessons to pass it on to her children. What the difference is between a nonmuslim and a muslim is her faith, manners, behaviours, modesty, and prayers. The following are the practices of nonmuslim: 1. men are generally constrained to take to corruption and unfair mean of income to fulfill undue demands of their wife. 2. she hurts the feelings of her husband by using indecent language, immodest conduct, immoral actions at all times. 3. making unfair demands which are beyond his means. It is very common among women to tease and trouble their husbands by these three practices, except for pious women.

The sign of a righteous woman is that she obeys her husband in all matters that Islam has permitted to the best of her ability, Allah (SWT) said,

"...the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands)..." 4:34

The Messenger of Allah gave glad tidings to those righteous women that obey their husbands, he (SAW) said,

"If the women offer prayers fives times a day, protect their honour and chastity and remain faithful to her husband, she may enter paradise by whatever gate she desires" reported in Taghreeb ul Tarheeb.

Those wives who are rebellious and disobedient towards their husbands will not have their supplications answered, for Muhammad (SAW) said,

"There are two types of person whose prayer will not rise above their heads; a slave who deserts his master until he returns back to his service and a women who shows disobedience to her husband until she abstains from this behaviour" reported in Taghreeb ul Tarheeb.

The righteous wife must guard her honour and chastity from any hands from touching her, eyes from looking at her and any ears from listening to her. Unlike in the West where the women have become public properties and free for all to touch and view, Islam ordains women to protect her honour.

In Islam the mother is also known as the teacher, and it is her role to look after her husbands children and develop the Islamic identity in them, Muhammad (SAW) said,

"...the wife is the guardian and is responsible for her husbands house and offspring" reported in Bukhari and Muslim

The Holy Prophet (S.A.W.) said, "A thankful tongue, a soft-hearted wife is a friend of yours in religion.'' These are the qualities that Islam desires in a woman who shall nurture the future generations of mankind towards an Islamic society.

Our Holy Prophet (S.A.W.) said, "The honored woman before Allah are those who are obedient to their husbands and remain within the boundaries of their homes."

Islam allows women to go out of houses for their needs. But Islam is against unnecessary intermingling of the two sexes because such intermingling, as we may notice in Western civilization, leads to endless problems and threatens the safety of the family, which is one of the most valuable institutions in the society according to Islam.

"On the Day of Resurrection, Allah will not turn towards a woman who is ungrateful to her husband, in spite of the fact that a wife cannot go with her husband." ( Nisa'i)

The Prophet (S.A.W.) therefore, stressed upon the wives to be loyal and faithful to their husbands and to seek their pleasure (A great reward has been promised for this, in the hereafter.)

Mu`adh bin Jabal (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Whenever a woman harms her husband in this world, his wife among the (Houris in Jannah) says: `You must not harm him. May Allah destroy you! He is only a passing guest with you and is about to leave you to come to us". [At-Tirmidhi].

"Shall I tell you the most precious thing a man can have? It is a righteous wife: when he looks at her he is pleased, when he tells her to do something she obeys, and when he is away she is faithful and loyal to him" [al-Hakim, who said it is sahih according to the conditions of al-Bukhari and Muslim]

The Qur'an says "The righteous women are obedient and protect (the husband's interest) in his absence, as Allah has protected them."

The Quran mentions good wife as "comfort of eyes." (25 : 74)

Westerners are now coming to us complaining about the matter of beatings. All right, it doesn't happen among us that a wife dies because of husband's beating. And if something like this does happen in our society, it is considered rare, and all the newspapers talk of it, true or not? In contrast, the latest U.N. statistics from 1999-2000 say that every 12 seconds in the U.S. a wife is beaten by her husband and in some instances these beatings reach the point of killing the wife. Therefore, when the Westerners bring up complaints against us regarding our affairs, why shouldn't we be strong and bring up complaints against them regarding their affairs? Despite the existence of the verse in the Koran, no cases of death have been recorded in our society, and if there were, then these were rare cases. In contrast, they are without verse, religious law, or law, and despite this, every 12 seconds a wife is beaten by her husband! What is better?! A man must know... Therefore, when we have a dialogue with the West, we must talk with them based on foundations, based on culture, based on thought.

Therefore, my brothers and sisters, the matter must be discussed realistically and logically. If husband and wife... even in one of the psychology conferences, when they presented this Koranic verse, there was a psychiatrist who converted to Islam because of this verse. He said: 'This is the first time that I see, in the holy book of a monotheistic religion, a social and psychological problem being handled by the Koran.' We all know that some men are afflicted with a mental illness known as 'sadism' and some women are also afflicted with a mental illness known as 'masochism.' What is the treatment for these mental illnesses? Beatings! He must treat her harshly! Even one of the sages claimed that this verse descended for those afflicted with this mental illness. Therefore, a husband married to a wife afflicted by this illness, let's say sadism - well, let him beat her because the beatings, for her, are a cure. I have a psychologist friend, and once I spoke with him and he told me: 'We have marital problems in which the wife suffers from this illness and we recommend to the husband that he beat his wife in a certain way, and thus the problem is solved.' See how the Koran handles this problem. And therefore we say, brothers and sisters, we have no reason to become tense, we have no reason to become convulsed, our religion is great and in the verses of the Koran there is absolute justice, in them there is no injustice for the man, there is no injustice for the woman, but this obliges us to study religious law(Shariah, Allah's law), so that we will know how to act in accordance with its rulings...

The report, carried out at London Metropolitan University, said crime data suggested up to 47,000 rapes were actually committed every year.

In the year 2000 United States had an estimated population of 626,932 which ranked the state as having the 48th in population. For that year the State of United States had a total Crime Index of 4,249.4 reported incidents per 100,000 people. This ranked the state as having the 22nd highest total Crime Index. For Violent Crime United States had a reported incident rate of 566.9 per 100,000 people. This ranked the state as having the 10th highest occurrence for Violent Crime among the states. For crimes against Property, the state had a reported incident rate of 3,682.5 per 100,000 people, which ranked as the state 23rd highest. Also in the year 2000 United States had 4.3 Murders per 100,000 people, ranking the state as having the 26th highest rate for Murder. United States's 70.3 reported Forced Rapes per 100,000 people, ranked the state 1st highest. For Robbery, per 100,000 people, United States's rate was 78.2 which ranked the state as having the 33rd highest for Robbery. The state also had 405.1 Aggravated Assaults for every 100,000 people, which indexed the state as having the 10th highest position for this crime among the states. For every 100,000 people there were 621.9 Burglaries, which ranks United States as having the 31st highest standing among the states. Larceny - Theft were reported 2,685.8 times per hundred thousand people in United States which standing is the 22nd highest among the states. Vehicle Theft occurred 374.8 times per 100,000 people, which fixed the state as having the 24th highest for vehicle theft among the states.

Somewhere in America, a woman is raped every 2 minutes, according to the U.S. Department of Justice. The FBI estimates that 72 of every 100,000 females in the United States wereraped last year. (Federal Bureau of Investigation, Uniform Crime Statistics, 1996.) According to the Justice Department, one in two rape victims are under age 18; one in six are under age 12. (Child Rape Victims, 1992. U.S. Department of Justice.) About 81% of rape victims are white; 18% are black; 1% are of other races. (Violence against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994.) Victims of rape often manifest long-term symptoms of chronic headaches,18,20fatigue20, sleep disturbance20, recurrent nausea,20 decreased appetite,21 eating disorders,22 menstrual pain,18 sexual dysfunction,23 and suicide attempts.21 In a longitudinal study, sexual assault was found to increase the odds of substance abuse by a factor of 2.5.24

Now what The Quran means tht muslim men can marry Christian and Jewish women is tht they are chaste women(like never been penetrated, very unlikely you find anyone like tht today) Those type of women you find in the time where they lived under Islam state before the crusaders invaded Jersulem and changed the true christianity. Then some of them became unlawful to marry. Now in this time, where the nonmuslim countries are powerful, they both christian and are forbidden to marry PERIOD, NOTHING more else to say about this. In this time, being chaste(virgin) is very very very rare in the nonmuslim countries. Those women are totally forbidden to marry. For those nonmuslim women tht are married to muslim men, it is not pleasing to the sight of God and it is invalid in Islam. Those muslim men you have married has lost a big huge chunck of himself(his identity and values tht made him a man) and tht is also his respect to his mother. After 10 or 13 yeaars of living with him you will notice he has changed from wht his mother raised him to be with his own dignity and identity to loosing all those values and replaced his mother for you and he hsa become JUST LIKE YOU, A NONMUSLIM. And of course your children with him.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Allah created all the creatures and when He finished the task of His creation, Ar-Rahm (ties of relationship) said: `(O Allah) at this place I seek refuge with You against severing my ties.' Allah said: `That I treat with kindness those who treat you with kindness and sever ties with those who sever ties with you.' It said: `I am satisfied.' Allah said: `Then this is yours". Then Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Recite this Ayah if you like: `Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight". (47:22,23). [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

The words in Al-Bukhari are: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Allah (SWT) says: `He who maintains good ties with you, I maintain good ties with him; and he who severs your ties, I sever ties with him".

Commentary: This Hadith also stresses the importance of proper treatment with relatives for the reason that this is a special means of attaining the nearness and Mercy of Allah. A conduct contrary to it, that is to say, devouring the rights of relatives and continuation of estrangement with them, is the cause of displeasure and Wrath of Allah.

The RESPECTING AND OBEDIENCE of our mothers remind me of a hadith where Prophet Muhammad(RSW) was heartfelt It mentioned tht he was an orphan, no father and no mother at tht time. He wished he could have his mother living with him. And whenever she would call out his name on her bed, even though he is praying he would break his prayer and run to her and ask her wht she needs. There is SO MUCH RESPECT to the elderly especially everyone's mothers.

333. Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: I had a wife whom I loved but `Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) disliked her. He asked me to divorce her and when I refused, `Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) went to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and mentioned the matter to him. Messenger of Allah (PBUH) asked me to divorce her. [At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud].

Commentary:  If parents' order to divorce one's wife is based on the principles of Shari`ah and morality, it must be obeyed, as is evident from this Hadith. If their order is founded on other factors, then one should try to convince them politely so that they agree with one's view on the issue. Here Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) loved his wife for love's sake, but his father `Umar bin Khattab (May Allah be pleased with him) disliked her basing his decision on religious grounds. This is why the Prophet (PBUH) ordered Ibn `Umar to obey his father.

334. Abud-Darda' (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A man came to me and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce". I replied him that I had heard Messenger of Allah (PBUH) saying, "A parent is the best of the gates of Jannah; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it.'' [At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah].

Commentary:  The word "Walid,'' applies to mother as well as father. As the word "Walidain'' is a dual form and covers mother and father both; similarly the noun "father'', also applies to both. This Hadith also stresses that obedience of parents and submission to their order must have preference over the love for the wife as long as this order of theirs is fair and just.

335. Al-Bara' bin `Azib (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: I heard the Prophet (PBUH) saying: "A mother's sister is equivalent to (real) mother (in status)". [At-Tirmidhi]

Commentary:  This Hadith tells us that one should be as respectful to one's aunt (mother's real sister) as one is to mother, as it is a virtue as well as "a form of maintaining the ties of kinship".  

316. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A person came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and asked, "Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?'' He (PBUH) said, "Your mother". He again asked, ``Who next?'' "Your mother", the Prophet (PBUH) replied again. He asked, "Who next?'' He (the Prophet (PBUH)) said again, "Your mother.'' He again asked, "Then who?'' Thereupon he (PBUH) said,'' Then your father.''

In another narration: "O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?'' He (PBUH) said, "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary: This Hadith tells us that the rights of the mother are three times more important than that of the father for the reasons that:

1 She is weaker than the father.

2. The following three troubles are borne exclusively by the mother while the father does not share them with her:

a) She carries the baby in her womb for nine months,

b) The labor pain which she suffers.

c) Two years' period of suckling which disturbs her sleep at night and affects her health. She has also to be very cautious in her food for the welfare of the baby.

317. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them)". [Muslim].

Commentary: The word ``Ragham'' means soil. When a person's nose is soiled, it is a mark of his extreme humiliation. This metaphor carries a curse for an unfortunate person who does not win the pleasure of Allah by serving and obeying his parents. In fact, it is a malediction as well as a prediction of someone's inauspicious end. Service of parents is essential at every stage of their life - whether they are young or old. But this Hadith mentions their old age for the reason that in that period of their life they stand in greater need of care and service. It is a very callous offense to leave them at the mercy of circumstances when they are old, senile and depend on others for their needs. To neglect them at that stage is a major sin for which one deserves Hell-fire.

You have the AUDACITY to match yourself with one of us. HOW DARE YOU! You are of no match in our relation within our communities, but considered as GUEST, accept or leave. You are nonmuslims, who doesn't cover, have no respect to your own MOTHER or give honour to her. You expect everything your way, but it will not work in our SIDE. You are no match of one of us or one of the TRUE CHRISTIAN OF JEWISH(before the crusaders), which they covered themselves head to toe and lived protected under Islam State, but hands and their face were showing, tht is acceptable even for muslim women now.

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You are non muslim. Your freedom is to break with your relatives and break family values by complaining whether you like it or not, it always has to go your way. Our freedom is to unite and make our ummah and this world live at large in peace under ISLAM. We muslim women can do so much even to care for husband's mother, because the "wo" from "women" is from womb, who nurtures , grow, and develop with Isalmic values and to the family and our communities and societies. And you nonmuslim misuse this power of yourself for yourselves, your ego, and your greed. You have no values from where you came from or whn you were raised up to be harsh to elderlys and tht time whn were disobedient to mother in your teenage years.

In considering marriage to a non-Muslim woman a man should remember that marriage is more than the private marital relationship. A good Muslim woman would provide her husband with total security, comfort, trust, tranquility, and happiness, and would raise the children as good Muslims. A man would not have to see his children taken to a church every Sunday without being able to prevent it or live with the concern that his wife would teach his children un-Islamic traditions. It is much easier to trust a Muslim woman than to trust a non-Muslim woman who does not fear Allah, and know that He is watching her all the time. And certainly a woman who does not fear Allah, who sees and knows everything, will not fear or obey her husband who is only home in the evenings.

Do not marry unbelieving women until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than a free woman who does not believe, even though the latter may appear very attractive to you. Al-Qur'an: Al-Baqarah (2:221)

Muslim men should consider these issues before they marry non-Muslim women, especially when the man is strongly influenced by her physical appearance. A Muslim man should look to the future and consider his duties toward his children. The cases mentioned show clearly the damage that can be done to children in interfaith marriages, and while a personal sin may be easy to forget and repent from, one may never overcome the problems that arise because his children were raised as non-Muslims as a result of his negligence concerning providing the right spouse and community for them. Children have the right to be brought up in an Islamic environment by good Muslim parents.

Allah (s.w.t.) said: This day are (all) good things made lawful for you. The food of those who have received the Scripture is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them. And so are the virtuous women of the believers and the virtuous women of those who have received the Scripture before you (lawful for you) when you give them their marriage portions and live with them in honor, not in fornication, nor taking them as secret concubines. Whoso denies the faith, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter. [Qur'an: Al-Ma'idah (5:5)]. A Muslim man is discouraged from marrying a non-Muslim woman if there is no Islamic State or if he is not living in an existing Islamic state, since the non-Islamic states do not recognize his rights as head of the family to raise the children Islamically. On the contrary, the children will most likely be brought up in their mother's religion, since the Muslim husband does not have his Islamic rights in his non-Muslim wife's country. There are many tragic examples of Muslim men who tried to take their children to their Muslim countries after they divorced non-Muslim wives. The women in many of these cases succeeded in bringing the children back to be raised in the non-Islamic societies as non-Muslims. The fathers are referred to as kidnappers (of their own children) in the non-Islamic media. Unfortunately, even the governments in Muslim countries these days help the non-Muslim wives to get custody of the children. This is due to the absence of an Islamic state which would protect Muslim children from being kidnapped by non-Muslim wives to be raised as non-Muslims.

The benefits of marrying a non-Muslim woman are minimal when both live in a non-Islamic state. The woman and her relatives would not see how Muslims live as a community, nor would they have close contact with family, should the Muslim man decide to marry her and live outside the Islamic State. Marrying a chaste Christian or Jewish woman in a non-Islamic state should be considered as a last resort and as the only alternative to keep him from falling into adultery. Men, however, should be aware of the fact that most women in non-Islamic societies do not qualify as chaste women in Islam, (i.e. abstention from unlawful sexual activities). Some Muslim men ignore these conditions and ignore the commands of Allah when they are misled and fooled by a smile from a non-Muslim woman.

She must be Kitabiyyah, i.e. Christian or Jewish by faith, and not by virtue of birth into a Christian or Jewish family. Many women who live in Christian or Jewish societies today are atheists, Buddhists or Bahai's. These women are prohibited for Muslim men. A woman who commits apostasy, by becoming a non-Muslim after being a Muslim, would not be allowed to marry a Muslim man, since apostasy is much worse than unbelief.

Dr. Yusuf Al-Qaradhawi also said that Muslim men may not marry Christian or Jewish women if the Muslim community is a small minority in a huge non-Muslim society, and such marriages would make it impossible for Muslim women to find Muslim men to marry. This is classified under "limiting the allowed" in the Islamic jurisprudence. Dr. Yusuf Al-Qaradhawi used the example that if all people grew cotton instead of wheat, the government would have the right to stop them from doing so, since wheat is a necessary food ingredient, even though growing cotton is allowed in normal cases.

There are many Muslim girls of a marriageable age who are living in non-Islamic countries, and it is the duty of the Muslim men to protect these girls from marrying non-Muslim men, which is absolutely prohibited in Islam. If Muslim men loosely practice their right to marry Christian or Jewish women, the Muslims girls in non-Islamic societies will be forced into unwanted circumstances and Muslim men will be at least partially responsible and will get their share of the punishment from Allah. In considering marriage to a non-Muslim woman a man should remember that marriage is more than the private marital relationship. A good Muslim woman would provide her husband with total security, comfort, trust, tranquility, and happiness, and would raise the children as good Muslims. A man would not have to see his children taken to a church every Sunday without being able to prevent it or live with the concern that his wife would teach his children un-Islamic traditions. It is much easier to trust a Muslim woman than to trust a non-Muslim woman who does not fear Allah, and know that He is watching her all the time. And certainly a woman who does not fear Allah, who sees and knows everything, will not fear or obey her husband who is only home in the evenings.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "He who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him be hospitable to his guest; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain good the ties of blood relationship; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, must speak good or remain silent". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary: This Hadith is mentioned here to highlight the importance of kindness to relatives. It enjoins considerate treatment to relatives and stresses that one should maintain relationship with them at all costs. So much so that even if they misbehave and sever relations with him, one should make efforts to restore not only relationship with them but also their rights. This is what kindness to relatives really means. Islam has laid great stress on it. Relatives include both paternal and maternal relatives.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A man said to Messenger of Allah (PBUH): "I have relatives with whom I try to keep the ties of relationship but they sever relations with me; and whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, I am gentle with them but they are rough to me.'' He (PBUH) replied, "If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do so". [Muslim].

Commentary:  This Hadith has three important lessons:

First, the misbehaviour of one's relative is no justification for the misbehaviour of another, let alone the severing of relations on that account.

Second, the person who treats his relatives nicely in all events and circumstances is blessed by Allah Who will send from heaven helpers to support him.

Third, the consequence of denying compassion and kindness to relatives is as woeful as the eating of hot ashes.

When we keep our identity you people call us terrorist even though ehn TALIBAN is a small little group who we muslim make a dialouge and understanding if done in kindness ( Which really the nonmuslim countries are TERRORIST, because they are terrorizing our brothers and sisters, because they want to live according to Islam. They have TERRORIZED our lands and corrupted many of our people and rulers, muslim rulers AS PUPPETS), when we practice ISLAM we are called EXTREMIST OR ISLAMIST. In our side we know NICKNAMING is MAJOR SIN, I have read its greatter than commiting MURDER, because you defaming someone or ruining someone's reputation or name. You think freedom is without Islam. No, freedom is without terrorist threat from the enemies of Allah. Plus, look up histories of Dark Ages of Europe and Islam in Spain. Islam brought light to humanity and made many civilization, but the enemies of Allah MISUSED Islam and its light and of course its right to humanity. You people are totally corrupted inside and outside to your familys and societys.

Muslim men and women are told to seek faithful spouses with a strong, good belief, and not allow non-Muslim standards of selection influence them. Muslim men can marry only Muslim, Christian, or Jewish chaste women, while Muslim women can marry only chaste Muslim men. Allah (s.w.t.) said: Do not marry unbelieving women until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than a free woman who does not believe, even though the latter may appear very attractive to you. Al-Qur'an: Al-Baqarah (2:221) http://www.islamfortoday.com/interfaithmarriage.htm

/******* 1- Non-Muslim women, to whom Muslim men can marry, are the women from Christian and Jewish religions who are residents of "Daar-ul-Islam****" nations where Islamic law prevails) and who are thereby called, "Dhi'mmi" (those who give Jazzia instead of Zakaat in an Islamic state??), but NOT the residents of "dar al-kufr" (where the kuffar or non-Islamic rule exist). To these women, marriage is allowed but is "mukrooh tanzihi." (I can't translate it properly) 2- With Christian or Jewish women, who are resident of "dar a-harb"****, the nikah (the marriage contract) will be valid, but will be a "mukrooh Tahrimi" (worse than tanzihi) situation. The act which is "mukrooh tarhimi" is so close to "haraam" (not permissible at all) that it is ALMOST "haraam" and is "na'jaiz" ie. not legal. The man involved will be responsible for committing an act which is so close to a state of "sin". **** Victor Danner describes "Dar al-Islam" as : the House of Islam, or the Islamic world; the Islamic community, where submission to the Divine Will reigns; Opposed to dar- al-harb ( the non-Islamic community)

It is permissible for a Muslim man to marry a Christian/Jewish woman strictly under these two conditions: She is a true Christian/Jew - not by name and/or ancestral background. She did not renegade from Islam and become a Christian/Jew. The Quran in Sura 5:5 says: . . . Likewise you are permitted to marry chaste believing women [Muslims] or chaste women among the people who were given the Scripture [Jews and Christians] . . . . (Maududi, vol. 1, p. 427)

http://www.jannah.org/sisters/intermarriage.html

All interpretations must end when there is a clear Hadith of the Prophet, pbuh, on the issue. He never recommended marriage with non-Muslim women. Addressing men, he makes it quite clear that Islamic integrity and faith is the requirement for marriage: "The messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be on him, said: Women are married for 4 reasons: for wealth, for family nobility, for beauty and for Deen: You should marry for Deen, otherwise may your hands be rubbed in the dirt." [Narrated by Abu Huraira, r.a., in the Sahih of Bukhari and the Sahih of Muslim.] Deen is a comprehensive term for piety, knowledge and practice of Islam, and Fear of Allah.

http://asqfish.wordpress.com/2008/03/22/does-islam-allow-muslim-men-to-marry-non-muslim-women-in-america/

They want to extinguish Allah's Light with their mouths, but Allah will not allow except that His Light should be perfected even though the disbelievers hate it. It is He who has sent his Messenger with guidance and the Deen of truth, to make it superior over all religions even though the Mushrikoon(polytheists) hate it." (Al-Tauba 9:32-33)