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December 23, 2008 at 5:09 pm #190233
Hi, i havnt been on in a while but i am in need of advice. we just had our 4th child in aug. ages 6, 4, 20 months and 4 months. We had decided that she was our last. well now im not so sure! I want another one very badly and hubby says no way, never. I dont know whats wrong with me, i feal like i should just be happy with the family that i have, i have been blessed with 4 healthy beutiful children, why do i want another? sometimes i wonder if its to replace the 20month olds twin that i lost in gestation, but why does that bother me so bad? and if i had carried to term, would we have had our 4 month old? I am supposed to be getting the iud as soon as i get my period, but a part of me doesnt want to, a part of me says, if i get pregnant it was ment to be, and if i dont it wasnt? has anyone else ever felt like this?:confused:December 23, 2008 at 6:05 pm #1020101
Yep! I was quite happy with just the 2 older kids. Then once Emma came along in 2007 I have been reallllllly wanting another one (from the minute she was born). I keep telling myself it is because the older 2 (11 & 13) have each other and Emma needs someone her age. Sometimes I think it is just my biological clock banging around. I dunno but I know how you feel.
DH flat out said NO WAY. But he won’t take the step to make that a permanent NO WAY LOL So we shall see…..December 23, 2008 at 6:19 pm #1020102
I just turned 24, so very close to your age! We have a 3 yr old and a 14 month old and i find myself wanting more as well. My DH says no way, these two are expensive and stressful enough ha!
We will see what happens as time goes on thoDecember 23, 2008 at 7:00 pm #1020109
I know exactly what you’re going thru. I actually just posted a thread like this in “mommy talk”.
I have 3 awesome kids. 5,3 &1. Dh says thats it, no more kids. And I want one more! I think maybe in 4 years or so dh will feel differnently. But in 4 years i will be 33 and do i really want to have a baby when I am 33?????
GOOD LUCK comvincing you dh to have one more!December 23, 2008 at 7:28 pm #1020119
I have three children right now and I would like to have my fourth. Nothing is wrong with you you just want a big family.December 23, 2008 at 7:47 pm #1020126
I just had my third child, and all the way up til he was born, I was convinced he would be the last. But now, I also find myself thinking, Well, maybe one more. But we have unusual circumstances, so we’ll see.
I think it’s completely normal and natural to have those yearnings. And men quite often don’t understand. I have no advice, but know where you’re coming from!December 23, 2008 at 7:56 pm #1020128
thank you all so much for your replies. I told dh that i dont want one now, but maybe in like 3 or 4 years he says absolutely not, but is not making our bc permanant so well see. maybe by then i will be out of the baby stage and not want anymore. i can see where he is coming from, we have 4 kids in a 4 bedroom house, we are busting out the seems of this house and cant afford a bigger one. he says we cant afford another just because of the space issue, but i figure if its a boy, he could room with our son, and girl could room with the girl who has her own room. Other than that, what is there to afford, Till college anyways, i stay home and bf and cloth diaper, so really, what expense is there lol thanks again ladies, glad im not alone fealing like this1December 24, 2008 at 3:19 am #1020149
I have four and I feel like our family is complete. When I had my third baby, the in laws kept asking when dh would “get snipped”. It annoyed me because I strongly felt we would have one more. It sounds a little nuts, but I felt there was another soul out there waiting to join our family. When my son was born, I didn’t have that feeling again. He’s 2 and I still feel like he is it.December 24, 2008 at 11:35 am #1020156
I have 5 and still we are thinking maybe. I do feel like we are missing someone.December 24, 2008 at 1:54 pm #1020169
i have three and we decided (mostly my dh) that it was enough but i do not feel complete, i’m not sure my wanting another will ever go away…December 26, 2008 at 5:52 pm #1020251
I’m in the same boat as everyone else! We have two, ages 2 and 3 1/2 months, and I want one more and DH says No Way! I’m not saying I want one more tomorrow, but definately one more someday.
I feel your frustration!December 26, 2008 at 6:02 pm #1020252
Frank has been trying to convince me for number four for over a year, there is no way I’m going to change my mind.December 27, 2008 at 4:46 am #1020288
Tracey with 6
seriously though, I am probably not the person to ask about this, I knew I wanted a nother one when we fell with number 7, I love kids, all stages as much as they drive me to distraction LOL ( school holidays here) but my answer is to hte original poster , wait, you are only 23, give yourself time, i try for atleast 12months minmum between pregnanacies so my body can recover,, other than that good luck , oh BTW 4 is waaay easier than 3 !December 27, 2008 at 4:57 pm #1020299
He is officially not allowed to read that!December 27, 2008 at 6:47 pm #1020310
I only have one here and I have 7 angels in heaven. I know for a fact that I want at least two kids but I always wanted 4 or more. I told DH that I wanted that many and he says after three he wants to get snipped. Hopefully I can convince him not to. But with our circumstances it takes awhile for us to fall pg and I am high risk due to miscarraiges and preeclamsyia. So who knows. Maybe Ill get lucky and get preggers with twins and then I will only need to have one more pregnancy and DH will allow it LOL
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