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IamWHO (627) 02 Apr 2008 12:10 AM

I am so sorry. How horrible. This is neglect and I do feel it's abusive. Neglect and disrespect are forms of abuse. Looking at porn instead of you is infidelity. Thinking about extramarital sex it is pretty close to doing it. You need things to change and quickly. This is no environment for a child. I think you should give him the option of going to a marriage counselor so that you can be around an objective person who can help him understand how you feel and help you guys change your relationship for the better. If he won't do it or won't make any changes then I think you should leave at least temporarily to show him you are serious and if he wants you to stay he has to make some changes. Then if he still doesn't change, then I think there is nothing you can do. It's about your child and how is this situation supposed to teach her her own role in this world. She needs two parents and you need support. Motherhood is so difficult. I'm not a mother, but recently took my 9 month old nephew for almost two weeks. OH MY GOSH!!!!!! Your man has ABSOLUTELY NO CLUE what you go through and needs to wake up quickly. I am not one to support divorce at all, except in cases of abuse and infidelity. And I feel you are headed towards an abusive situation. And your infant should not be in and environment where there is regular fighting. It's one thing to be a homemaker and another to be a mother to an infant AND a homemaker AND a personal maid to a complete slob. He is showing you a major lack of respect and it's not going to get better on it's own.