I realize that some biological or adoptive parents want to keep the personal contact information private. Some fear the bond being too close between the biological parents that it may affect the bond between the adoptive family and the child. I do not want to say that would never happen because I suppose it could but I personally think if the child is loved by the adopted parents that the child would have the best of both worlds. If the biological parent is well balanced, emotionally stable than the benefits of having some form of contact with the biological parents, … Continue reading →

With open adoption both the biological family and the adoptive families know the names, addresses and contact information for each other. In our situation and the fact the biological mother did not seem to me to have the ability to make great decisions so we did not want her to know our information. We were concerned that if she had our information we would eventually hear a knock at the door and she would be there. We actually took preventative measures to insure that she did not know our information. We used my maiden name for any introductions and papers … Continue reading →

If you are considering placing your unborn child up for adoption or you’re considering adoption I hope that you read my last entry. If you did you will realize that both the adoptive and birth families have decisions to consider. The decision to participate in an open, semi-open or a closed adoption are decisions that both parties need to decide on. The first part of thinking about the decision is to consider how comfortable you are with sharing your child’s life with another person who is responsible for your child. I can see it from a few different positions. As … Continue reading →

In my last entry I mentioned doing some research on adoption benefits that employers may offer. If you are planning on pursing adoption you should start your journey by calling your human resource department and see if they offer any. When you are speaking with them be sure to ask if the company offers any financial assistance to pay for the adoption process. Many employers offer paid leave but if your company is not one of the companies that offer it but your company has more than 50 employees they are obligated under the Federal Family Medical Leave Act to … Continue reading →

We were at the emergency vet for one of our dogs last night and the doctor mentioned about adoption so of course we went into what agency we had experienced with the adoption of our kids. It is so funny my normally shy husband comes out of his shell when people talk to him about adoption. The story always starts with the night he got the call that we were selected for the two boys. We had already been turned down for the first two children we were put in for so when we did not get a call all … Continue reading →

My oldest son has to do an extra credit project on a holiday. He has a full list of holidays 3 full pages of holidays to be exact. He can choose any holiday he wants he could choose a national holiday like Fourth of July through the Hot Dog Day. Now he loves to eat so he was leaning towards Sandwich Day or Hot Dog day but instead I said we were going to do Nation Adoption Day. I am pretty sure that he will be the only one in the class doing a project on National Adoption Day. He … Continue reading →