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Birth Family and Entitlement in State Adoptions

I just wanted to touch on some thoughts I had relating to birth family, entitlement and communication. These are mostly things I wanted to get off my chest, but I hope someone who needs to hear them will have a better understanding of one adoptive mother’s perspective anyway. Allowing Contact with Birth Family Most parents I know would agree there is often a sense of loyalty within family—even within birth family. Whether or not this is true in any specific case, it’s because of this many adoptive parents are leery to allow much contact—if any, fearing some information, out of … Continue reading →

Attitudes Regarding State Adoptions: Part 2

In part one I shared some misconceptions and attitudes in regard to children adopted through the state. Here I’ll continue: Our child won’t have that ~ If you’re one of the few parents that gets your dream child that is beautiful, smart, fully compliant, then you best hit the slot machines as you are one lucky person! Parents who adopt older children especially are adopting not just the child, but the needs of the child that have to be addressed. Unfortunately, the state agency is not always aware of these needs prior to placement, either because they never got the … Continue reading →

Attitudes Regarding State Adoptions: Part 1

The following is a list of attitudes and misconceptions people have about adoption usually prior to their placement. I don’t intend to discourage anyone, but it’s important for families to be realistic in expectation. Children aren’t puppies, they’re children! ~ There is nothing wrong with wanting to adopt and know you are giving your child a good home. It’s okay for you to feel good about what you’re doing. But if you’re going to have the attitude that you are “rescuing” this child, you are doing your family a great injustice. It gives implication to the child that they owe … Continue reading →

The Kids through State Adoptions

Contrary to the stories, concerns and fears you might have read about online, most of the kids adopted through the state that I personally know about are genuinely well adjusted and happy. Many potential adoptive parents become scared off after reading an adoption forum site or watching television. Before becoming resistant to state adoption, there are a few things I’d like you to know: 1. Adoption forum sites typically have posts by parents seeking support and information rather than raving about their wonderful and beautiful children. In other words, people with happy and normal lives don’t always sit and talk … Continue reading →

State Adoptions: Training and Application.

The Foster to Adopt or Straight Adoption information packet families receive after contacting the state children’s services office should include information about orientation and training classes in the county a potential adoptive family lives. Sometimes this packet will include the Adoption Application which will serve as the foundation for your home study. Most states require a certain number of hours in training before the foster or adoption application will be accepted. Generally, interested families will need to attend an information meeting and a set number of hours of training before the application can be submitted. The majority of your initial … Continue reading →

Open, Semi-Open or Closed Adoption

There are many women out there facing an unplanned pregnancy and if you are considering placing your unborn child up for adoption GOOD FOR YOU. As I am sure you know there are thousands of potential parents just waiting for a child to call their own. Before you begin deciding on the parents for your child you need to give some other issues some thoughts. Choosing the adoptive parents is an extremely important decision but there are other decisions that you need to make before you begin the process of choosing the family. First you need to think about whether … Continue reading →

National Adoption Day

My oldest son has to do an extra credit project on a holiday. He has a full list of holidays 3 full pages of holidays to be exact. He can choose any holiday he wants he could choose a national holiday like Fourth of July through the Hot Dog Day. Now he loves to eat so he was leaning towards Sandwich Day or Hot Dog day but instead I said we were going to do Nation Adoption Day. I am pretty sure that he will be the only one in the class doing a project on National Adoption Day. He … Continue reading →

Should You Consider Adoption Part 4

Another concern that I have heard is that they adoption is way too much money. I am not going to lie some adoption agencies are very expensive. There are two in the Dallas area that when we called them they said for a toddler it was $25,000.00 plus ½ of our W2’s. When I got up off the floor I started calling around and found an agency that worked with CPS and they did not cost anything. We did our parent training with them, they did our home study all at no cost to us. They get paid by the … Continue reading →

Is Inter-Racial Adoption ok?

My husband and I were put in for adoption of two brothers, one Caucasian and one biracial Caucasian/African American. When we started to adopt we were open to any race of children, color definitely was not an issue. When the state was trying to decide who these children should be adopted by it was between us and a single African American woman. Would you be surprised that the single woman only wanted to adopt the bi-racial child? We never would have even considered splitting up biological siblings so why would this woman? I cannot say what was in her heart … Continue reading →

We Finally Found an Adoption Agency

So after we came out of the shock of the business aspect of adoption, and it is a huge business, we finally found the type of agency we were looking for. The agency we used was Homes of Saint Mark located in Houston. We live in Dallas and Houston is about 4 hours away but they did not treat it like a way to make money. Homes of Saint Mark placed infants that were given up, they placed children from CPS, they also matched birth moms who want to give their babies up through private adoption. We thought we were … Continue reading →