09 Apr 2009 06:51 PM

Need some advice

I am a 32 year old mother of four and wife.  I have been married a little over 2 years and I have three children from previous and we have a soon to be one year old together.  My children are 13,9,5,and 1.  I feel that he doesn't take quality time with the kids (including his own), the way he talks to them bothers me, and when I mention it to him he seems to think I am over reacting.  I know our relationship is getting worse and I don't know where to start to begin to fix it.  I loved the man I married and how he was with the kids and me but now it's like I have to either be on his side or my childrens, we have no communication at all with each other on how to discipline the kids or what is going on with each other day to day.  I am a stay at home mom and I am with the kids all day and I also take care of my 76 year old grandmother who had a stroke and can not be on her own.  When he comes in from work he will watch t.v.,get on the computer or play the wii.  It upsets me because he acts like I am not tired or need the occasional break.  I feel like I am not given the respect I deserve.  There is just a huge strain on the marriage and I have told him to leave and that I want a divorce, I blow up at him when I keep all my feelings in and I don't have any friends to talk to or to get things off my chest.  I am with my grandma and one year old all day until my 13,9, & 5 year old get home then he gets home between 330-4pm.  I have a big problem trusting others and I don't trust him at all, I just feel that as far as his past goes I don't know much about him and he won't tell me much either.  We both are very jealous people.  I just feel so lost!

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