ALstepmom's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneALstepmom Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry12 Oct 2007 08:51 AM My previous post has some strange characters in it, so I redid it... My situation is a bit different. I do not have a Narcissistic mother, but my stepson does. My husband stayed with his ex-wife for years because of their son, but finally just could not deal with her anymore. He simply said that she was crazy and he couldn't take it. Her behavior was so baffling to me, so I started reading up on personality disorders and I am convinced that she has NPD. Because she is narcissistic, she completely blames my husband for their divorce. Nothing is ever her fault. According to her, she was the perfect wife and mother and is just an innocent victim. She has told anyone who will listen, including their son, that my husband just walked out on her with no warning. This is not true. According to my husband, he urged her to seek some counseling. When she refused, they discussed divorce for months prior to his leaving. She now thinks that she is entitled to make all decisions regarding their son. She also constantly asks for extra money (he pays her quite a large sum each month in child support already) and believes that we should give to her because "she deserves it". If he doesn't give it to her, she tells his son that daddy won't give them any money. My concern is for my stepson. He seems so desperate to please his mother. We are supposed to have him at our house every other weekend. He often cries and tells his mother that he doesn't want to come and stay with us. I believe he acts that way because he thinks that's what she wants. He told my husband that he worries about her because she is all alone without him there. He is 12 years old. He never spends the night with any of his friends because he doesn't want to leave his mother alone. He has told us that she needs him with her because of "everything she has been through". It's just not normal for a 12 year old to worry so much about keeping his mother happy. He should be enjoying these years. Anytime we want to take him on a trip or do something fun with him or just get him for the weekend, it's a battle to pry him away from his mother. My husband finally has to tell him that he's coming with us and it's not an option. He hates doing that, but it's the only way we will ever be able to get him to spend any time with us. Once he's away from his mother, he's fine and has a good time. However, he calls her several times a day to check on her. Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry12 Oct 2007 08:47 AM My situation is a bit different. I do not have a Narcissistic mother, but my stepson does. My husband stayed with his ex-wife for years because of their son, but finally just could not deal with her anymore. He simply said that she was crazy and he couldn’t take it. Her behavior was so baffling to me, so I started reading up on personality disorders and I am convinced that she has NPD. Because she is narcissistic, she completely blames my husband for their divorce. Nothing is ever her fault. According to her, she was the perfect wife and mother and is just an innocent victim. She has told anyone who will listen, including their son, that my husband just walked out on her with no warning. This is not true. According to my husband, he urged her to seek some counseling. When she refused, they discussed divorce for months prior to his leaving. She now thinks that she is entitled to make all decisions regarding their son. She also constantly asks for extra money (he pays her quite a large sum each month in child support already) and believes that we should give to her because â€Å"she deserves itâ€Â. If he doesn’t give it to her, she tells his son that daddy won’t give them any money. My concern is for my stepson. He seems so desperate to please his mother. We are supposed to have him at our house every other weekend. He often cries and tells his mother that he doesn’t want to come and stay with us. I believe he acts that way because he thinks that’s what she wants. He told my husband that he worries about her because she is all alone without him there. He is 12 years old. He never spends the night with any of his friends because he doesn’t want to leave his mother alone. He has told us that she needs him with her because of â€Å"everything she has been throughâ€Â. It’s just not normal for a 12 year old to worry so much about keeping his mother happy. He should be enjoying these years. Anytime we want to take him on a trip or do something fun with him or just get him for the weekend, it’s a battle to pry him away from his mother. My husband finally has to tell him that he’s coming with us and it’s not an option. He hates doing that, but it’s the only way we will ever be able to get him to spend any time with us. Once he’s away from his mother, he’s fine and has a good time. However, he calls her several times a day to check on her. |
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