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Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry

12 Apr 2007 06:54 AM

Thank you for your reply.... can you make an educated guess as to why a new mother, who had a great marrage at the time, would risk everything, her new baby, family, husband, and a great career, just to have an affair with her boss, especially when she knew we would be moving from the area after graduation in a few months. He called it off after their second time, to his credit.

A quick note; she did a similar thing when we were engaged foue years eariler, with another co-worker but because I was not treating her as well as I should have at the time (I was scared) I have not been as critical and more forgiving.

This all happened many years ago but it still dogs me because of the timing with our new family. I was busy with my last year in school but by no means was I neglecting her in any way. When I look back, it was the best times of our married lives. Great social life, good sex life and a super extended family structure. She did contact the guy eight years later to arrange another meeting but she later called him back to cancel. He verified this to me. BTW, he was also married and his wife was pregnant at the time.

Although I don't believe she has strayed since then, I find myself not giving her my full trust. We have hashed this out several times over the years but I feel there is still something she has not told me. Is there more here than meets the eye? Any comments of suggestions will be appreciated.

Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry

11 Apr 2007 08:36 AM

During my wife's first pregnancy, her boss hit on her repeatedly, both before and after she got pregnant. She said they even made out in his car several weeks before her delivery. A few weeks after she returned to work they went to a motel and again several months later. I was in college at the time. When I asked her why she could only say "he just wore me down".

My wife is the last person who anyone who knows her would do such a thing. We had ,and continue to have, a good marrage but I still want to know WHY. Could postpartum depression be involved here? She said she was freaked out before and after our child was born but I never saw anything out of the ordinary at the time.

Has anyone heard of this happening before?