Ariala's comments

Are you a Controlling Spouse?

11 Jun 2008 09:03 AM

Wow, it sounds like the discussion escalated into a major war. If divorce is being talked about, this can't be the first time such confrontation has occurred. I would suggest apologizing, first and foremost, for your part in the misunderstanding. Next, I would say that together you find out how much the monthly payment will be and figure out if it's even in the budget. If all else fails, I would suggest getting help or asking her "What can I do differently to make our relationship better?" Approach her with a desire to make things work. Tell her you'll do your best to work things out and figure out a way to rationally agree on what you can or cannot afford. Good luck!