Beth McHugh's comments

TVs in Children's Bedrooms (1) - Blog Entry

05 May 2010 10:53 PM

Thanks Dale, stay tuned for series 2!

Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry

01 May 2010 01:01 AM

Hi Lily, have you read all of my articles on NPD on this website? They will help you understand the condition and in doing so will help you to move further out of the sticky we that a narcissistic mother weaves. Although you have gone no contact, that does not, as you can see, necessarily solve the problem much less ease the pain of the past. If you would like individual counselling after reading the articles you can go to my website at http://youronlinecounselor.com and look at the ways I work with clients, particularly those who have suffered at the hands of NPD parents. Best wishes, Beth

When Your Church Lets You Down (2) - Blog Entry

24 Apr 2010 06:32 PM

Hi Gone Crackers, I'm glad you were able to find a more intelligent and intuitive person. Doing a theology course obviously does not equate to wisdom and compassion.

Borderline Personality Disorder: Causes and Treatment - Blog Entry

23 Apr 2010 01:06 AM

A person who "soaks up" anothers characteristics is not necessarily mentally ill. People who live together or see each other a lot unconsciously mimic each other mannerisms and speech patterns. Where you do find a person who seems to "adapt" to the situation they are in and change their intonation and body language, this is usually an indication of low self esteem, especially when even the clothes change and the style of living changes. As long at changes from person to person, this is not a condition in itself. In rare situation where a person becomes fixated on another and completley changes their own identity and tries to become like that person, depending on the age of the mimicker, there could be a psychological problem. This is comparativley rare however.

Why the Taboo about Suicide? - Blog Entry

23 Apr 2010 12:57 AM

Hi Safeworkplace, you have been commenting on so many of my blogs and you need support and help from as many people as you can muster. This can be difficult when people often remove themselves when the going gets tough. Try to access as much community help as you can apart from friends and if you feel you would benefit from professional help you can always contact me at youronlinecounselor.com

Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2010 03:23 PM

Hi Copycat, that would be an eucumenical matter. Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

21 Apr 2010 03:22 PM

Hi Soapy, sounds like your mother has boundary problems and no real sense of respect for others, both possible indicators of NPD. The smacking and paddling are not prerequisites for this diagnosis. There is a lot of manipulation and passive-aggressive behaviour going on and I understand that you feel you are in a no-win situaiton. That is because you are in a "no-win" situation! You can't please a narcissist and it's pointless going NC because it would only cause you more stress. Yet you will need to learn how to set boundaries with your mother and she will not like it as you get stronger and she will put more pressure on you. This is all to be expected. It is also pretty normal to find out at your age that mother is NPD, the dawning often comes after having children of your own. If you would like help in moving through the necessary detachment and boundary setting process you can contact me at http:youronlinecounselor.com for personal assistance. Best wishes, Beth

The Relative Effects of Family Members with Narcissistic Personality Disorder - Blog Entry

20 Apr 2010 03:09 PM

Hi Acceptance, thank you for your comment and I wish you luck in dealing with your mother -- it's a difficult situation but you can get through this and come out free to be your own person. Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

20 Apr 2010 02:14 AM

Hi What is normal. it certainly does seem like your mother may be displaying more than one disorder which is causing even further confusion to what is an already confusing situation. It seems quite complicated and beyond the scope of what I can write in this forum. Then there is the confidentiality aspect. If you would like additional personalised help with this situation please contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com

Best wishes, Beth

Another Suicide, Another Pain-filled Life Ended - Blog Entry

20 Apr 2010 02:03 AM

Hi Safeworkplace, certainly the fear of being judged is a large reason why people hesitate to speak openly about their mental illness. Often it is people who have recovered who do speak out, but that is all acceptable because the speaker is now "back in the fold" so to speak. Not that there is anythign wrong with a recovered patient speaking of their expereince, it's great for them to speak openly and it's great for those who are still suffering to hear that there is hope. It's just sad that we want to hear about the success sties yet still have that propensity to ignore those who are currently suffering.