Beth McHugh's comments

Born-Again Christians a Potential Threat to Mental Health Sufferers (1) - Blog Entry

28 Jun 2009 08:31 PM

Hi Surthrive, yes some of these people are very dangerous indeed. Offering false hope in the name of God is disgraceful. Vulnerable people are suffering enough without the added stress of these false Christians. Best wishes, Beth

Suicide: Why Do the Neighbors Talk but do Nothing? - Blog Entry

28 Jun 2009 08:15 PM

Hi Captain Don, it's great that you care so much for your sick niece and are there for her, so many people clearly are not. Your relative is very lucky thanks to you

Escaping the Trap of the Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

23 Jun 2009 07:24 PM

Hi Alyx, it is unfortunate that NPD is not better known, but the occurrence of the condition is not particularly high in the population it's just that when it occurs, it does so much damage. Many cases do go undiagnosed if only for the reason that people with narcissism do not seek therapy. If you would like further assistance in dealing iwith your own case, you can contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com Best wishes, Beth

Should You Confront a Narcissist about their Narcissism? - Blog Entry

23 Jun 2009 07:17 PM

Hi Real Deal, NPDs are no more physically violent than so-called "normal" people. In fact, as they have a self reputation to uphold they m, on average, be slightly les so. However, each person is an individual, even NPs so I cannot say for certain. Have you tried just ignoring him? He may go away without a scene but if you you do actually tell him to go away, you have to expect some reaction because that would harm his fragile sense of self. Best wishes, Beth

Narcissistic Parents and Rape - Blog Entry

23 Jun 2009 07:12 PM

Hi Surthrive, if you do find you need help eradicating the guilt feelings that are so important to full recovery, you can always contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com

Narcissistic Parents and Rape - Blog Entry

21 Jun 2009 10:48 PM

Yes it is possible for a pattern of abuse to start up after an incident of sexual assault and it is not uncommon. It's almost like the perpetrator gets into your head and then you somehow attract others like them into your life. But it doesn't have to be that way. Once you are aware that you may be following a pattern where abusive people single you out, you can take steps to stop that and become strong again and nobody's doormat. Do you still feel guilty about the original assault? Have you and your counselor been able to eradicate this as doing so is very important in how the rest of your recovery pans out. Best wishes, Beth

Narcissistic Parents and Rape - Blog Entry

21 Jun 2009 08:38 PM

It's highly unlikely that both your parents and both siblings are narcissists. Narcissists work best when they have a partner who will do their bidding and satisfy their needs, so perhaps one parent is a narcissist but I cannot say based on e contents of your post Several criteria have to be met in order for a diagnosis to be made. If one parent has NPD it is possible that one of the children may have it, but again I do not have enough information to confirm this . Nevertheless your parents seem to have been neglectful of their duty to not come to your aid after the rape and as such this is not normal behavior. Similarly, one would hope that your brothers would be protective of you, so all in all you have had a nasty experience made worse by the actions of your family. Have you had any therapy concerning the sexual assault?

Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

19 Jun 2009 12:20 AM

Hi Amylou, no you are not crazy bu narcissists are very good at making you think you , especially when they are your parent and you grow up knowing little else. Now that you know what is going on, keep learning about the disorder and you will start to see certain patterns and then be in a position to begin to detach from your mother. At ast you know! Best wishes, Beth

Escaping the Trap of the Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry

11 Jun 2009 06:53 PM

Hi Janwag, it certainly seems like you are dealing with an extremely self -centered person. Now that you know and understand a little more about the way these people operate, you may be able to better detach from her and her antics and therefore find some peace from all the years of manipulation and emotional detachment on her part. Best wishes, Beth

Denying the Father's Role when Mother is a Narcissist - Blog Entry

11 Jun 2009 06:48 PM

Hi Rescued and Grizelda, No, I can;t read your minds, but I just know the pattern! NPD is one of my special interests so I guess I have put a lot of time and effort into it. I would like o again welcome readers to share their thoughts and experiences on my new message board which you can find under forums at http://youronlinecounselor.com

Best wishes, Beth