Beth McHugh's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneBeth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry07 May 2009 06:18 PM Just a quick note here on the importance of the non-NPD parent in a marriage. I will write a blog on this issue since it is an important one, but many adult children of NPD parents get blinded by the behaviors of the narcissist and do not see the contribution to the family dysfunction by the non NPD spouse. But more on this later! Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry04 May 2009 06:13 PM To have any hope of happiness in your own life while dealing with an NPD parent there are several steps to take. One is acceptance of the situation. Sounds easy but it isn't but you will never get any peace until you do. You will also need to go though a grieving period which can last for some time. However the rewards of going through this hell is freedom from the pain of hope and the pain of entrapment. Contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com if you feel you need additional help. Best wishes, Beth Do you worry about what other people think? - Blog Entry03 May 2009 05:48 PM Well Bode, this is a small example of letting go of what other people think, which can, of course, ultimately lead to crippling emotional problems. Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry27 Apr 2009 04:53 PM Hi Psych2B, it is important that you identify your mother's behavior as being pertinent to her and her only. Unfortunately adult children of NPDs have often learned to absorb and generalize the false beliefs of the parent onto other situations just as the parent did. This is all part of the recovery and separation process. Best wishes, Beth Life is Precious - Don't Waste It! - Blog Entry26 Apr 2009 06:52 PM Sorry CNYIRI I disargee with your comments. So many people suffering from anxiety disorders and depression often "wish their life away" waiting for things to get better. This quote is a reminder to make the best of the day you have, even if parts of it are very painful. It also does not advise to "take time and smell the roses" it says "seize the day and make the best of it you can." I have found it to be be a very grounding and motivating concept to use with my clients. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry21 Apr 2009 05:41 PM Hi Psych2B, yes, the "why" is not as important as the acceptance. Until you accept you will always be susceptible to the pain your mother dishes out. If you need personal help in getting there you can contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry16 Apr 2009 08:28 PM When the non-NPD partner dies there is often no checks and balances in the home anymore and the unbalanced behaviors can now go largely unchecked. Hence it all appears to get worse. Should You Confront a Narcissist about their Narcissism? - Blog Entry16 Apr 2009 06:15 PM Hi Bon Voyage, many adult children of narcissists believe that they are narcissists too. For a variety of reasons, his thinking is common. However I always reassure clients that if they think they are a narcissist, then they definitely are not one! NPD sufferers are not capable of the insight involved to question whether they have narcissism or not. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry16 Apr 2009 06:10 PM There is no known connection between shyness and NPD. Extreme shyness can be genetic but it is in no way related to narcissism which is a personality disorder. Avoidance PD also ha a much different set of criteria to NPD. Hope this helps. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry14 Apr 2009 06:04 PM To all recent commentors, thank you for telling your stories so that others can see that they are not alone. Having an NPD mother is a lonely experience but one that often doesn't take its full impact until we become adults and realise what is going on. There is always muh anger, greiving, depression, een anxity. There are issues of abandonment and low self esteem. But while you cannot change your parent it is possible to minimize the impact that your parent is continuing to have on you. Do not think that you are stuck in whatever rut you are, even the worse scenarios can be improved. It is also easier to do this while you parent still lives, although it is possible to deal with the harm that has been incurred. Once you are out of the tunnel of powerlessness, you will wonder ow you ever put up with it all. There is hope! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 |
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