Beth McHugh's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneBeth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry14 Apr 2009 05:59 PM Hi What is normal, yes, my books are closed but f you would like to contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com we could look at when we could fit you in, if you decide to go that way. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry06 Apr 2009 06:12 PM Hi Magpie, sadly they have little idea of the pain and demands they put on their loved ones as they have little or no insight into the feelings and indeed real existence of others as separate beings. Sounds like some firmer boundaries are needed between y and your father, otherwise he will spoil not only your wedding but your immediate future. You have done well in identifying and minimizing the pian he inflicts but if its getting to panic stations again then you will need to take the situation firmly back in hand even if that means limiting contact with him again. Best wishes, Beth Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry05 Apr 2009 11:08 PM Hi Rmaxheimer, did your wife' nmood change immediately affter she had given birth or a few weeks later? Or has she been withdrawn as you describe since before she became pregnant. She may have experienced depression for some time and the birth of the baby has exacerbated it. Has she sough treatment form a doctor or counselor for how she is feeling? And has she ever expressed to you or others that she is unhappy? There could be numerous reasons why your wife is behaving in the way she is , PPD being only one of them. Have you been able to talk to her at all about how she feels about her life, her job, her role as a mother and her feelings towards you? Best wishes,Beth Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry05 Apr 2009 11:02 PM Hi Confusedmc, no you don't sound pathetic at all, I think you are doing a great job under very difficult conditions. Keep spending that time with your daughter and yes, I agree your wife needs to talk to someone as her lack of real interest in her baby demonstrates that all is not well and it's not just the marriage. Perhaps her mother could persuade her to go along to her local doctor who can take matters from there. Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry05 Apr 2009 10:55 PM Hi Whatisnormal, you have raised so many issues that I can't answer all of them in the context of this forum. But I suspect your mother may have a dual diagnosis, ie. she may have NDP plus another personality disorder as from what you describe she does not ft the typical pattern. No, sadly, she will not get well and as you area compassionate person you will have to learn to walk the delicate road between being humane for your mother's sake and saying "no" for your own. It is not easy but at least you know what you are dealing with. There can be many grief issues surrounding dealing with a narcissistic mother, if you need further help in dealing with the situation down the track you can contact me at http://yourconlinecounselor.com Best wishes, Beth Coping with an adult with Asperger's (4) - Blog Entry29 Mar 2009 04:57 PM Hi Blackeltyside, if you would like to contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com we can talk about the possibility of having your husband assessed. It would be up to both of you as to whether that would be a hindrance or a help but you may find it useful to understand exactly what you are dealing with. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry29 Mar 2009 04:52 PM Yes, Grizelda, do not apologize! This forum is for people to share their experience and know that they are not the oly ones going through this painful process. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry26 Mar 2009 04:30 PM Hi Stuck, there are so many issues that need addressing, not that this situation is not capable of being solved to your satisfaction. Have you thought about having therapy in order to sort out your feelings and beliefs about the situation? Best wishes, Beth Narcissism-Symptoms and Treatment (1) - Blog Entry26 Mar 2009 04:19 PM Hi Camomile Tea, it is very exciting to hear how far you have come and are now willing to embrace life and happiness. You now see the problem for what it is and in time will realize that at last you are in the power seat after all these years.Good luck! Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry17 Mar 2009 04:51 PM Hi daughterofevil, at least you have recognized what you are dealing with and have taken steps to minimise the damage caused by both of your parents. Best wishes, Beth 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 |
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