Beth McHugh's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneBeth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry19 Feb 2009 04:28 PM Lovedogs, you have done so well.Be proud of your yourself. Best wishes, Beth Narcissism-Symptoms and Treatment (1) - Blog Entry19 Feb 2009 04:25 PM Hi Diane, sounds like your brother is refusing to take personal responsibility for his actions. Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry17 Feb 2009 05:57 PM Hi Lovesdogs, you need to congratulate yourself from extracting yourself from the clutches of your mother and doing it so successfully. She really has no power over you anymore,only that which you might occasionally still give her. As you have achieved so much, do not now be afraid to go out in the world and make a wonderful life for yourself including getting a partner if that is your wish. Good luck! Beth Coping with an adult with Asperger's (2) - Blog Entry16 Feb 2009 05:15 PM Hi Fungusgnat, perhaps someone who has already contributed to the comments on other Asperger blogs will talk to you about heir experiences. It is good though that at last you know what you are dealing with, and will explain many of your DIL's behaviors over the years. It is a difficult condition to deal with at times. Read as much as you can about the condition and if necessary you might even consider consulting an expert on autistic spectrum disorders in your local area. Best wishes, Beth Diagnostic Criteria for Generalized Anxiety Disorder - Blog Entry16 Feb 2009 05:11 PM I believe that God uses people to help others in many practical ways, that includes medical intervention when necessary. Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry16 Feb 2009 05:06 PM Hi Skyden, It's hard for me to say if your mother truly has NPD but she does definitely say hurtful things that your impressionable children do not need to hear. It is important to set firm boundaries on what you will and will not tolerate from her, including how she treats your children. You have the power now to say how the relationship will be and if she values the relationship she will respect your wishes. If you get a tantrum and manipulation you will know to increase those boundaries to protect both yourself and your children. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry16 Feb 2009 05:01 PM Hi Lulea, sometimes some things are too hard to forgive and it puts pressure on a person to "have" to forgive. I know many people won;t agree with me on this, but I will say that to get past this you will need to learn to "accept" what your mother is. There can be no healing withing it. It is very hard to truly accept that your mother cannot and will not ever love you, but that is your task. Learn as much as you can about the disorder to the point where you can almost predict her behavior. You are not a lessor person because she could not love you, embrace the wonderful person that you are despite the childhood deprivation and accept, accept accept. If you have trouble doing is, and it is not easy, you might like to consider therapy to get you through that phase. Letting go of wanting your mothe rto love you is so important to your future freedom. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry16 Feb 2009 04:54 PM Hi Abouttoblow, have you asked our daughter if she wants to continue viisting her cousin and aunt? Do you think she is aware that when she comes back form their place she feels differently than when she visits another friend? Ask her why she thinks she feels less happy after a family visits and why she thinks that is. Also ask her how importatn does she think it is to have new clothes rather than other life alternatives, such as close friends and life talents. Although she is still young she will have some wisdom of her own if you try talking into her about the situation. She may surprise you with a level of maturity you didn't expect! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 |
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