Beth McHugh's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneBeth Coping with an adult with Asperger's (4) - Blog Entry15 Jan 2009 05:15 PM Hi pastymorant, have you thought of having a separate visit with your therapist to discuss the possibility of Asperger's? If you are seeing a marriage therapist they may not be aware of soem of the subtle signs, particularly if your partner is well adapted. Alternatively you might like to consult a therapist who actually specializes in AS spectrum disorders to set your moid at ease once and for all. Best wishes, Beth Online Mental Health Support Groups: Are They Useful? - Blog Entry15 Jan 2009 05:10 PM Thanks, Janet, for telling us about your experiences online. You're right, these groups can be good, but you do need to be careful what you reveal and that in itself can limit the usefulness compared to counseling. But with good moderators they certainly can help people break out of the isolation that comes with many conditions. Postpartum depression: Effects on the marriage - Blog Entry15 Jan 2009 05:06 PM Hi confused, this must be a very painful situation for you. It's great that you are having counseling,even if your wife won't attend. Your wife is certainly giving out messages that she wants to be apart form you even when she is in the same home. I'm sure you have asked her to come to therapy. If she refuses, there is nothig you can do. Yet you must move on with your own life and perhaps going back to your parents is one option you can explore. As nothing seems to be changing, it will be you that has to change. If you "leave" her that might make her stop and rethink. If it doesn't then you are in a position to know that the marriage is not really a marriage s it stands. Keep talking to your therapist but most importantly, listen to your own inner wisdom about what you should do in this situation. Don't expect it to be easy, but you will get through it. But it looks like all the action must come from you as your wife seems content with the status quo. Hope this helps, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Family Member - Blog Entry12 Jan 2009 04:48 PM Hi HRmgr, your best defense against your SIL is to act as a team with your husband How does he feel about her behaviors? You can't change her, only the way you and your husband act towards her. Sure, you can show her up if you like, particularly if it is over an important issue that you feel strongly about but be prepared for an argument! It ends up coming down to deciding how much contact you want with this woman, and again that depends on your husband's attitude towards her. Keeping a low profile and accepting that this is how she is is the easiest way to deal with her unless of course she says or does anything potentially harmful. Best wishes, Beth Adults with Asperger's Disorder - Blog Entry12 Jan 2009 04:41 PM Hi PhoenixFire, don't worry too much about taking on others accents, that is very common among the general population. Have you tried seeking counseling? From what you have said you may have a mild AS problem but the may also be aspects of social phobia, so you would benefit from talking to a professional face to face who is trained in this area who will help you to develop better interpersonal skills. Best wishes, Beth Why it can be hard to lose a parent you dislike (2) - Blog Entry11 Jan 2009 01:47 AM Hi Rowenap, answered your other comment on the death of a parent. Best wishes, Beth The experience of losing a parent - Blog Entry11 Jan 2009 01:46 AM Hi Rowenap, Try your best to focus on your entire relationship with your mother not just the end. The end is just one moment in a string of many moments that you and your mother enjoyed. You cannot be perfect, you cannot be everywhere. I know it was important to you to be with your mother when she died, yet this is not always possible. Talk to her about how you feel, perhpas you can get some pece from just telling her what i is you would have wanted to say. That way it gets out of your head and perhaps, who knows, into a place where she can hear you. In any case, I'm sure you knew in her heart that you loved her dearly. Best wishes, Beth Coping with an adult with Asperger's (4) - Blog Entry11 Jan 2009 12:34 AM Hi Little -j, the success rate for Asperger marriages is very low, but that is between a person with Asperger's and an average person. Does your partner have Asperger's or know that you do? If a partner is aware of the situation and understands the conditions, there is no reason why a marriage can be successful as long as the other partner is aware that they will be limitations for them. If they are happy with this, then there should be minimal problem. Where problems can arise is when children are born and there are interpersonal problems between parent and child and the child does not understand. Tis is an aspect that both partners need to discuss and prepare for . Hope this helps. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry11 Jan 2009 12:28 AM Hi Cara-Jo, is your partner experiencing any difficulties with his mother, because if he is happy with the status quo, then nothing will change. He has go to want to ange, as no-one can make another person change, we can only change ourselves. If he is truly a narcissist, then he will not react in a positive way to any revelation of yours. Have you asked him how he feels about his relationship with his mother. It sounds a bit like you are on the outer and mother and son are close to each other. I could be reading this wrong though. Best wishes Beth 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 |
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