Beth McHugh's commentsComments On: EverythingArticles Blogs Journals Photos created by: EveryoneBeth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry30 Nov 2008 04:07 PM Hi Headintheclouds, it does sound more hopeful in terms of NPD if your mother is instigating counseling. You might find out unknown things from her past that have caused her to act the way she did. I hope things work out well for you both. Best wishes, Beth. Are You a Social Phobic? - Blog Entry30 Nov 2008 04:05 PM Thanks, Karen, for your offer and good on you for making that first step to see a counselor. I hope that it all works out well for you. Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Manipulator (1) - Blog Entry28 Nov 2008 02:48 PM Hi tql, the method to deal with this type of situation regardles of who is manipulating you is not to buy into the manipulation. Easier said than done I know, but part of the reason why manipulators are able to get away with it lies with the person who is being manipulated. You need to become strong in yourself so that you do not react to his attempts to use and control you. Your husband can only get away with what you let him and you have just as much power in the relationship as he does, although I know it doesn't feel like that. Contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com if you feel therapy sessions would assist you at some time down the track.Best wishes, Beth Escaping the Trap of the Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry28 Nov 2008 02:42 PM Hi LonelyIsolated, have you had any counseling for either your childhood abuse or the effects of the environment of your childhood. Trust issues need to be addressed in this situation so that you do not recreate the past with all your new relationships. Would you consider having therapy? Best wishes, Beth Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry28 Nov 2008 02:37 PM Hi headintheclouds, it is not uncommon for adult children of narcissists to question whether they are narcissists themselves. They recognize certain behaviors in their parent and when they see selfish behaviors of their own, they ask "Am I a narcissist too?" The answer is almost invariably "no". A narcissist has little ability to objectively look at their own behavior for several reasons, therefore they never question their own motives and actions. For you to be questioning the possibility of your own narcissism suggests to me that you are not a narcissist. You are likely oversensitized to selfish behaviors because of your mother and worry when you see it in yourself. Despite the problems you may experience due to your upbringing, rest assured that narcissism is not one of them! You feel guilt a lot of the time because narcissists are very skilled at imparting guilt onto others, because they cannot tolerate being imperfect. Best wishes, Beth When Your Child's Grandparent is a Narcissist - Blog Entry28 Nov 2008 02:27 PM Hi techman, your wife's therapist will be able to outline a plan of dealing with your MIL, but your wife needs to be in a place mentally where she can implement these boundaries that need to be set up if the situation is not to deteriorate further. It sounds like your wife is not ready yet to let go of her mother in an emotional sense and still has an intense need to please her, even if it upsets and frustrates her to do so. It is also important that your wife gets to the point where she wants things to change and not keep going with the status quo. All this is perfectly normal and part of the process. If your wife feels she needs additional help, she can contact me. The change really has to come from her, since it is she who is struggling with unresolved issues concerning her mother. Hopefully her current therapist can help her address these issues. Best wishes, Beth Pregnancy and Bipolar Disorder - Blog Entry28 Nov 2008 02:18 PM Yes, women will pre-existing mental illnesses need extra support during and after pregnancy. Hence the article. Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother - Blog Entry22 Nov 2008 03:23 PM Hi Tracy, despite all you have gone through, it sounds like you are making headway in your progress to protect yourself from the harm your parents have caused you. There is not a high percentage of narcissistic parents, but when they are your parents, they can cause untold problems, often into succeeding generations until someone (like yourself) says enough is enough. Congratulations on your journey so far and I hope you will continue to move forward and find even greater peace. Thanks for your nice comments, too. It's always good to get appreciate feedback and to feel that you have made a difference in someone's life. Best wishes, Beth Garden your way to Peace - Blog Entry22 Nov 2008 03:14 PM Gardens are incredibly powerful places for regeneration, I have known clients to recover from emotional breakdowns using the power of peace, design, growth and work that all join to form an effective recovery environment that is a well-tended garden, however modest. The Power of the Mind: "Expensive" Isn't Always Better - Blog Entry22 Nov 2008 02:50 PM Yes, the mind is incredibly powerful. The attitude of the mind can achieve unbelievable success yet also intense despair. It can be our greatest friend yet worst enemy. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 |
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