Beth McHugh's comments

Defending Yourself against the Aging Narcissist (2)

14 Oct 2009 10:02 PM

Hi Bobeed, your initial feelings about your Mom have been shown to be true, and like leopards, true NPDs never change their spots. At least you have learned a very important lesson during this second phase with your mother. Leaving her is time will be so much easier emotionally for you, as you truly know now what you are dealing with. Leaving her a second time will be easier than the first because you know hr through and through. Yet, it is still so hard to have to deal with a mother like this and so unfair to all adult children of narcissists who have missed out on the basic thing every child needs -- a loving mother. Best wishes, Beth

Something Positive to Think About (2)

14 Oct 2009 09:55 PM

Thanks Cheryl...it's always good to have something to inspire us when we need a lift!

How a Narcissist Thinks

14 Oct 2009 09:51 PM

NPD can also develop where there has been a trauma in the sufferers young life. So-called "spoiled" children do not necessarily end up narcissists, otherwise we would see a lot more narcissists in the population! There is also believed to be a genetic component to the disorder as it can be often traced through the family tree.

Pornography Addiction: Can It Happen?

14 Oct 2009 09:47 PM

Hi MHunter, yes, porn can be addictive but what a great job you and your husband have done between you. Setting that firm boundary as you have will assist him to keep himself in check. Addictions can be beaten but the propensity is always there for one type of addiction or another so your husband is lucky to have your support. Hope your future together is a bright one. Best wishes, Beth

How a Narcissist Thinks

12 Oct 2009 04:01 PM

Hi Grizelda and other readers, I'm back after a long drawn out computer problem with the Families computer so I apologize for not answering your queries. I've been able to see them but not answer. Most frustrating! Please give me some time to work through all the comments, particularly the NPD articles which attract so many comments. Talk to you all soon! Best wises, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother

21 Jul 2009 05:24 PM

Hi Tenacious, if its any comfort to you, most adult children of narcissists do not work out what is actually wrong with their parent until they have children of their own and watch the difference in their lives compared to the regime under an NPD. Although you may know something is "wrong" with your parent when you are younger it can take half of your lifespan to work out exactly what it is. If you go to my website at http://youronlinecounselor.com you will find in the new articles section down the bottom an article on why it takes so long for people to discover the truth about their narcissistic parent. Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother

20 Jul 2009 05:01 PM

Hi Tenacious, it is a hard road you're walking but at least you now know what you are dealing with. Good luck, it's never too late to start your life and 59 is young when life is good. And your future can be good. If you need extra assistance you can contact me at http://youronlinecounselor.com

Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother

19 Jul 2009 06:53 PM

Hi Appreciation! Welcome to the site and I'm glad you found it comforting. As part of my http://youronlinecounselor.com site I have started a forum especially for adult children of NPD parents to share their experiences. Although your circumstances are painful, you might find in the long term they are for the best but you will need to go through the anger/sadness process in order to successfully extricate yourself from any pain your mother may cause in the future You are welcome to contact me at the above web address if you require extra assistance in letting go. Best wishes, Beth

Dealing with a Narcissistic Mother

19 Jul 2009 06:49 PM

Hi to all readers! I am often asked by clients undergoing therapy why it took them so long to find out that their parent had NPD. Why isn't is better known? I have added an article explaining this phenomenon on my website at http://youronlinecounselor.com You will find the link in the "Articles People are reading now " box. Have a read and I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the site forum which has been especially created for adult children of narcissistic parts to chat and exchange views. Best wishes, Beth

Reassuring a Suicidal Person

16 Jul 2009 05:17 PM

This is true, you can never give enough love o a suicidal person as they have no more to give to themselves.