When two people get married, the last thing on their minds is getting divorced, yet every day, millions of marriages are failing and people are getting divorced. With such high numbers of divorces in this country, what makes any of us sure we won’t be next?
The fact is, there are no guarantees in life, especially in relationships. Marriages are under a lot of pressures these days because of individual stress on the job and the normal stresses of every day life. Are there any measures couples can take to at least try to avoid getting to the point of considering a divorce? The answer is yes.
Let’s take a look at two main reasons people get divorced in the first place.
Irreconcilable Differences
This seems to be a biggie. People get to the point of not being able to work out their differences, or at least refusing to. What if you determine, right up front, to live with the differences between you and your spouse no matter what surfaces? Is this possible? Yes, in fact, it is. Differences can be accepted with respect and with loving toleration. As long as both people give each other space to be individuals, they can live with the differences. If, on the other hand, you expect your spouse to think, feel, and act just like you on every issue; you’re bound to be disappointed. Instead, determine not to get divorced over irreconcilable differences, but to instead communicate openly when any differences arise.
Adultery
No one wants to be the victim of spousal cheating, but it happens. This may be the best and most acceptable reason to get divorced, but before that choice is made, other issues should be considered.
If the two people in the marriage relationship love each other, forgiveness is the way to go. If the person who cheated is truly sorry and wants to stay and work things out, you should consider this an option. Obviously, you will have a lot to work through, but if you love your spouse and you forgive them, the next step is rebuilding the trust and the relationship.
The above two issues are tough ones, for sure, but they aren’t impossible for two people in love to resolve. If needed, counseling should definitely be sought.
