Attachment is a lasting bond that develops early in a child’s life. Attachment can occur between the mother and child as well as with others: dad and child, grandparents and child, even foster parents can enhance a child’s life through attachment.
Attachment is more than just an emotional bond, it is a critical component to the healthy development of the child. Children who experience attachment and feel the love of a caregiver have a better chance of growing into adults who are capable of sustaining lasting, close relationships.
Some parents find it difficult to bond with a child who has a disability. Particularly if the child provides little feedback to the parent. However, be assured, whether the child is capable of giving you the feedback you need at the time, they are feeling the love and tenderness you are giving to her. Parents and caregivers can help promote attachment with their children by providing a lot of love and attention to the baby. The medical community has even documented the improvement the babies make when the caregiver touches them. The heart rate is steadier and stronger with the touch, breathing is easier and less sporadic, and overall, organs are more productive.
If you didn’t bond with your baby in the first few years, for whatever reason, there is still time. Just focus on giving the child the attention he needs and make sure you allow your love for the baby to show. A few ways to promote bonding is to
*Respond when the child or baby cries and try to understand what they are trying to tell you
*Hold and touch the child as much as possible
*Utilize feeding and diapering times to look at your baby in the eyes and smile
*Talk to your baby–it doesn’t matter what you say, he will enjoy hearing your pleasant and familiar voice
As your child grows read to him and play simple games. Children with and without disabilities need a lot of interaction from their parents and caregivers. Time and attention are the best gifts you can give your child.