I recently finished an excellent book that I highly recommend called “My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife” by Sara Horn. If you fit into any one of these categories—Christian woman, writer or military wife—I know you will definitely enjoy it.
One of the reasons I really liked this book is because I could relate to the wife. Not in the sense that I am a military wife but in trying to figure out our roles, including who is responsible for what.
When my husband and I first got married nearly 21 years ago, I was a pretty headstrong person. Okay, I still am but I have softened in many areas.
One of the things I was not going to be is a doting wife. On top of it, I really didn’t know how to cook.
In fact, my specialty was to cut up ring bologna into chunks, fry them in butter and then mix them into some Kraft Macaroni and Cheese (we still eat this sometimes but it is no longer my specialty). Besides my lack of cooking skills, I wasn’t really big on keeping a neat and orderly home.
It quickly became apparent that my husband had been expecting something different. Keep in mind we dated for less than a year and never lived together. So he really didn’t know what he was getting into.
Things began to shift when we started to have children. I was suddenly becoming more domestic. In fact, I no longer desired to be out in the working world. I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.
If anyone had ever told me before I had children that would be my goal, I would have told you no way. I was the skirt and high heel wearing corporate woman who was making her way up the ladder at the insurance company I worked for.
It wasn’t until I was pregnant with our second child that my husband finally realized everyone would be happier if I got my way…I mean, if I was able to quit work and become a stay-at-home mom. So in my 7th month of pregnancy, I received his blessing.
From that moment on (and the addition of yet a third child), I became a domestic diva. Well, sort of.
Today I work from home full-time and although I consider the care of our house to mostly be my responsibility, I also expect help from my husband for the sheer fact that I do work full-time (even though it is at home). We have both willingly made adjustments.
When I think back over our almost 20 years of marriage, it is interesting to note the changes in our roles. I am learning that you have to be flexible and ready for changing seasons.
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