Sometimes boys don’t automatically see the benefits in attending Cub Scouts or Boy Scouts. They don’t understand that the things they are taught can be fun, or that they’ll make new friends, or that they’ll be able to use these new skills on their own to make their projects/hobbies even better. They just perceive Scouts as something they “have” to do, or that their parents are “forcing” them to do.
If you are a leader, here are some things you can do to encourage the scouts in your den:
1. Find out what their areas of interest are. The scouting requirements cover a broad range of interests and abilities, and it’s easy to find something that matches up with every boy’s hobbies, from sports to computers to chess. Then focus on those areas as you meet with that boy.
2. Keep the tone of your meetings upbeat and fun, and develop a playful attitude. Seek out the boy and be welcoming, without being patronizing. Let him know you’re glad he came.
3. Talk with the boy’s parents and ask if there’s anything you should know about the boy, be it learning method preferences, personality issues, or things he might be sensitive about so you can be sure to approach him in the way that’s the most comfortable for him. Don’t be shy to visit the boy in his home to get to know him better, if you feel that might help.
4. Pray over your boys. They are Heavenly Father’s, first and foremost, and He will direct you in how to communicate with them in the most effective way.
If you are a parent and have a son who is reluctant to attend Scouts:
1. Talk to him frequently about the fun he’ll have at Scouts. Really emphasize those parts of Scouting you think he’ll enjoy the best.
2. Let him be active in making the decision to attend. If he feels like he “has” to go, he may not get the most out of the experience. As you compromise with him and make him a partner in the choice, he’ll feel more in control and will enjoy it more.
3. Talk to your Scout leaders and share with them anything they might need to know about your son. If he really hates being called “Jimmy” and prefers his full name, “James,” make sure they know these things so they don’t get on his bad side right off the bat. Especially tell them if there are behavior issues or medical issues that might impact his involvement, and tell them how you would like those handled should they become an issue during the meetings.
4. And again, pray over your son. Heavenly Father knows what he needs.
Scouting is a wonderful program. I believe that most boys, upon giving it a chance, will love it. I’ve seen the boys in my den come together, form friendships, and really enjoy themselves. I’m seeing my son develop skills he’ll use the rest of his life. I’m grateful we have this program for our boys in the Church and not just in the community.
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