In the midst of all the preparations for having your first child, I think something many of us moms overlook is making sure we take advantage of the time we have left being a childless couple. It’s hard to imagine how your life will change once you become parents. Beyond the shift in priorities and the budget to accommodate our little ones, there are other changes to consider. Hormones and fatigue can drastically change how we spend our free time. Instead of spending quality time together we often end up choosing to sleep instead. Sometimes housework takes up more time, due to the extra messes to clean and the extra laundry to wash. Even when we do find time to spend alone together, our minds are still racked with thoughts like, “what if the baby wakes up?”
When we first had my son and the hospital bills were coming in, I looked back on our pregnancy and wished we had saved more money. But now that we have gotten beyond that period of financial adjustment, I do not regret the money we spent having fun together at all. When I was seven months pregnant, we went out to dinner at a gorgeous restaurant called Kiki B’s. It was Valentines Day and I was wearing a deep red dress that clung to my big round belly. All eyes were on me, that is for certain, but I loved every minute of that date. Most meals these days involve ducking to avoid flying missiles of food and trying to speak over the happy shrieks of a talkative toddler. Not that I would trade these chaotic dinners for anything in the world, but I am glad that I enjoyed quiet dinners with my husband when we had the chance. Every life as a season, and if you spend one wishing for the next, you’re missing a lot.
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