Some neighborhoods seem to be more family-friendly than others; as do streets, churches, schools, etc. Whether you have just moved into a new house or area, or are new to parenting, or you find that for some reason your family life seems to be lacking interactions with other families–what can you do to find other families with whom to interact?
Some communities have built-in “systems” for connecting families. In our city, we have a “Birth to Three” program that connects many brand new parents. Of course, these are geared toward parents of biological newborns. If you become a parent through adoption, adopt an older child, become a step-parent or are new to the area–finding families may not be so “ready-made.” It can take effort and trial and error. Here are some tried and true ways to find and connect with other families:
Consider schools, church, and any other extra-curricular activities that are an attraction to children. If your child is interested, playing sports, taking dance or gymnastics, or even art or music classes are a great way to meet other families. Go where children and families go–parks, play areas, children’s museums, kid-oriented concerts and performing arts. Meeting other families is really just like dating or making friends, by doing the things you enjoy and are interested in, you will find others who are into similar things. Of course, a family is a more complicated entity than an individual–with myriad interests and passions, but finding common ground from which you can connect (interest, age of kids, shared class or school, etc.) is a great place to start.
Again, like dating, you can put the word out to the people you do know that you would like to socialize and expand your world to include other families. This will let them know to think of you for a volunteer committee or activity or even invite you to a party where you can connect with other families. Finally, don’t rule out the internet and social networking online–this is a great new way to make connections. It may take some effort, depending on your community, but having some camaraderie is worth it.
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