My non-member friend asked me:
Why do Mormons have so many kids? If I become a Mormon, do I have to have more kids?
When Adam and Eve were placed in the Garden of Eden, they were told to multiply and replenish the earth. Mormons believe that this commandment has never been repealed, and we do have families that are statistically larger than the norm. However, this is not across the board. Some families have two children, others have thirteen, and some couples have not been able to have children at all.
The family is central to our Heavenly Father’s plan. We are placed in family units to help us prepare for eternal life—in Heaven, we will live together as families. As we learn to interact with each other here on Earth, we are being prepared to live in love and harmony in the hereafter.
Additionally, there are a great many spirits yet waiting in Heaven for their turn to come to this earth. We believe that we came to this earth to be tested to see if we will remain faithful to the Lord when we are out of his presence. There are others who are still waiting that same opportunity. As we have children, we are giving them that shot at exaltation as well.
Now, to address the second half of the question. Converts to the Church are not told to start having more children. This is a decision they make on their own. Some couples are physically and emotionally able to handle a large family. Other couples are only able to handle a few. We are counseled to have as many children as we can without endangering the emotional or physical welfare of the mother. If she isn’t able to cope with having a large family, she shouldn’t feel as though she has to have a large family. It’s a personal decision from couple to couple. There is no quota.
We don’t take finances into consideration when we think about the number of children we should have. It’s been promised, and I’ve found this to be true, that there are ways provided to financially support our children. We have four, and we want to have one more. We’re not rich by any means, yet we always seem to have enough to care for our children. I believe that will continue even as we have a fifth. But I know that for me, five will be my limit. I’m not one of these thirteen-child-moms, and I’m not being pressured to have more than I feel I can.
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