We were at the emergency vet for one of our dogs last night and the doctor mentioned about adoption so of course we went into what agency we had experienced with the adoption of our kids. It is so funny my normally shy husband comes out of his shell when people talk to him about adoption.
The story always starts with the night he got the call that we were selected for the two boys. We had already been turned down for the first two children we were put in for so when we did not get a call all day when the placement meeting was happening we thought it meant we were not approved for these two either. He drove home and when he pulled in our driveway our case worker called and said “HI DAD”. He says he was speechless but I was not there in the car that day.
Our case worker continued with I know today is Wednesday but we would like you down on Saturday to meet your sons and you can take them home with you on Monday. This is not how placement of 1 and 3 year olds is supposed to go. You normally have visits to get to know each other and to make the children comfortable with you and you with them, these visits are supposed to occur over multiple weeks building to an overnight and then actual placement. She said that the CPS case worker was a little upset that we were being proved with both children; he wanted to place the Caucasian child with us and the bi-racial child with a single African American woman. Our case worker and the boys Child Advocate fought to keep the boys together. I cannot understand, still to this day, why anyone would want to separate brothers especially seeing as we wanted to take them both.
When my husband hung up with our case worker he came walking in the house and said “HI MOM”, I was on the phone and said that I was not on with my mom I was on the phone with my sister. He then said “No you did not hear me I said HI MOM we got them.” Those were probably the most wonderful words that I had heard. He is lucky how many other Dad’s get to tell their wives that they are going to be a Mom isn’t it usually the other way around?