Once you have a child, it can be so hard to know if you should have another one. You are often afraid you won’t love the second as much as the first. But, then you have number two, and realize that your love is not divided. It just grows. But, when you are ready to have number 3, maybe the more likely question is, “Can I handle it?” Three seems like a crowd. Seriously.
I have two kids. A boy and a girl. In some ways, it takes the pressure off of having a third. I got one of each, why try again? Life is getting easier. One of my children is 2, and one is 4. While not entirely self-sufficient, they can do a lot of things on their own. Having a newborn is a lot of work. So, for me, I keep asking myself, “How do I know when I shouldn’t have another baby?”
So, to get the answer, I turned where most parents do. Facebook. I asked that question, and here are a few serious and fun answers I got:
* “When you don’t really like the ones you got”
* “Well, I don’t know for sure, but I’d assume it’s when you picture yourself having another and you have anything other than warm fuzzy feelings.”
* “I think if you have to ask if you should or shouldn’t, you probably shouldn’t. At least until you don’t have to ask the question anymore…you just know. You know?”
* “I think it is when you have figured out that the ones you already have are driving you to the looney bin. Or the thought of another gives you panic attacks.”
* “I think it’s interesting how you phrase the question. Sometimes how we phrase things reveals alot about how we process life decisions. It implies that you should keep having children until the time comes that you shouldn’t have anymore. Maybe try flipping the train of thought…to not having any more children until you feel undeniably like you are missing someone in your family… someone waiting to come to you. That decision is never an easy one…”
* “Pray about it?”
* “You’re still young and can wait let see about 2 years and see how you feel about this question ! No rush….”
I won’t list them all, but you get the idea. Everyone has a different opinion. I liked the answer pray about it, because that is what I knew I should be doing. But, I wasn’t. There is no perfect answer. I definitely want another baby. And, that’s where I am right now.
Speech: How much does your baby understand?