Even though Wayne and I celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary last month, have been together over 20 years total, and know each other about as well as we can, we don’t know everything. Surprisingly, we’re still learning new things about each other.
For Example…
Take this past weekend. Last week in “The Things He Does For Love: Ghost Hunting Classes” I wrote how Wayne agreed to attend a ghost hunting class with me. It was something I wanted to do, but something that would take up our together time during a weekend Wayne was home.
Ghosts fascinate me. (Or, I should say, the possibility of ghosts. No one has 100% definitive evidence they exist yet.) Wayne knows I’m hooked on shows like Ghost Hunters, Most Haunted, et cetera.
But when we get to the class and I start asking questions about certain people and/or concepts within the ghost hunting realm, he had no idea I followed it so closely, belong to certain online chat groups, or have my own theories and opinions on certain phenomenon. He learned something new about me.
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As does time, so do people. I’m talking about change.
I figure skated for 8 years of my youth. That dominated my interest list once upon a time. So did Barbies and books.
Books waned a bit from the age of 25-35, mainly because I just didn’t have time like I once had. Figure skated fell off my interest map before I could drive, as did Barbies.
Currently the thing is ghosts. I’ve always liked a good ghost story, but now a new facet has caught my attention. Will it be a life-long interest? I don’t know. Only time can tell.
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Participate in his or her interest.
Wayne’s nowhere near as interested in ghosts as I am, so attending the class with me was something he did for me. But not only did he learn some new things about me, we had something new to talk about. Discussions during the class and other students we met sparked conversation. It opened his mind and it opened our relationship further.
A similar sort of thing happened when he spent the better part of 2004 training for an Ironman event in Florida. I’m not as into the swimming, biking, and running as he is, but I supported his passion, learned a bit about it, and in the process learned about him. Namely, just how determined he can be and how much he can endure on zero sleep.
Reap the Benefits
You don’t have to make your wife’s hobby or your husband’s pastime your exclusive interest also. Simply taking an interest in it –asking questions about it, going to support them while they’re doing it (if applicable), or in some way participating with them—will enhance your relationship guaranteed. It adds a fresh dimension, gives you new things to talk about, helps you see them in a different light, and shows them you care.
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