One of the benefits of being a single parent is that you get a lot of one on one time with your child. You develop an even deeper bond with them because you are depending on each other to pull you through the hard times. It’s been almost a year now since my ex husband and I got divorced and I have gotten rather used to having this one on one time with my son. Life is always busy, running this way and that, but at least we are together.
When I started dating again I never anticipated how uncomfortable I would be sharing this time with my son. Men would jump in and want to join our little family, and I just wasn’t having it. While eventually I would like to find someone to be a father figure in his life, I am not ready to share him with just anyone. I already have to share him with his dad, I’m not ready to give up our one on one time with him just yet.
Dating in this kind of a situation seems to get more complicated all the time. I would like to be married again someday, to have some semblance of a family, but I have cherished this one on one time with my little Logan. Letting someone else into the picture scares me. In some strange way I feel threatened by it, reminding me that these things do take time. You can’t afford to rush into something like this. Life is different now that there are children in the picture. You may not be ready to share them, but they may not be ready to share you either. It takes time to adjust, for everyone involved. Make sure that you and your children have given yourselves time to heal before you let someone else in. Of course, I want to be married again someday, but for now, I am content with having Logan all to myself.