I have always been very independent. I have a hard time asking for help and an even harder time accepting it. When I found myself as a single mother I learned quickly that I just couldn’t do everything on my own anymore. There are times you are going to need people to watch your kids so that you can go to work or school. Other times you may be in a financial bind with no way out.
When I got divorced six months ago, I was a stay-at-home-mom. I hadn’t worked for three years since my son was born. I had no other source of income and quickly found that I wouldn’t be able to stay in our little apartment any longer. I had to humble myself and ask my parents for help. They graciously offered their basement to us and have been doing everything they can to help us while I am going back to school. Others rushed in and gave us their children’s old clothes for my son since I was no longer able to afford them. The family banded together to watch Logan for me while I was going to school because they knew I couldn’t afford daycare.
At times I felt so guilty that everyone was bending over backwards to help me. I was embarrassed at my situation, embarrassed that I needed help. I learned quickly that needing help was nothing to be ashamed of. Everyone goes through times in their lives where they need help. Believe it or not, I’m not superwoman. I can’t do everything on my own. I know that it won’t be like this forever. As soon as I am done with school I will be able to support Logan completely on my own, and I won’t have to worry about having to depend on other people to help me with everything; but for now I’ve come to realize that it is okay to ask for help. That’s how people show that they love you and someday you will be able to return the favor. For now, just remember that it isn’t a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. It takes a strong person to be able to accept the help of others. Hold your head high and know that you are loved.