I can’t recall the context in which I heard it but not too long ago the phrase “friends with benefits” was mentioned. I had to stop and think about that for a moment. What I do know about this terminology is it means to have sexual relations without any ties. But I decided to look it up in the urban dictionary for more information.
Specifically, it means to not only have a sexual relationship but to have it without being emotionally involved. I suppose this can happen but I find it difficult to believe. Deep down inside there must be some play on the emotions, unless the person is completely dead inside.
This is such a superficial way to engage in a relationship. It certainly can’t make you feel good about yourself and it doesn’t add to your life. It is callous and thoughtless. It is also quite selfish and won’t bring lasting fulfillment.
For some reason it got me thinking about “marriage with benefits.” You see, in this scenario you get to enjoy the best of both worlds. You get the intimacy but then you also get the emotional attachment. When you combine both of these, it makes for a much happier life. You also increase the chance that your marriage will last.
But what often happens after a couple has been married for 5, 10, 15 years or more…is that those important facets of a marriage get neglected. It may be that intimacy is set aside because everyone is too busy or too tired. Or it may be that the emotional connection to one another is non-existent. You have grown too comfortable in the marriage.
No matter how long you have been married, you need both. You need a marriage with benefits. If something in your marriage has been neglected, perhaps it is time to resurrect it.
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