The great thing about marrying someone whose personality is the opposite of your own is that the two of you can play off each other’s strengths. You each complement the other’s strong points, and often strengthen each other’s weaknesses. You can both learn something from the other person.
We will discuss different types of opposite couples over time and you may find similarities to your own relationship. The first couple is the introvert/extrovert pair. While either half of this couple may see his or her own personality as positive and the other as negative, both descriptions apply to each personality.
The introvert, while sometimes shy and reserved, also tends to be highly observant of people around him or her, and very sensitive and empathetic. The extrovert, who at times may seem a bit too boisterous, has a way of making other people (even complete strangers in some cases) feel more at ease.
These two personalities can work very well together, as the more laid back partner teaches the life of the party that he or she doesn’t always have to be “on.” At the same time, the outgoing partner may have a knack for helping the other person relax and feel more comfortable around others.
The “life of the party” person can still enjoy social outings but can agree to carry the conversation or make introductions until his or her mate has a chance to warm up to new people. The more introverted spouse can help the other learn to pick up on signs that people are uncomfortable or unhappy with a particular topic of conversation or other factors.
If we look at opposite personality traits as being negative, they can become a source of discord. However, if we look for the positive aspects, we may learn and grow. We can help each other find a good balance instead of seeing such extreme differences in our personalities.
Related:
Playing Off Each Others Strengths, Part 2