So I am beginning to emotionally prepare myself for Mother’s Day. Every year I try to not have too many expectations and yet despite that, I always end up feeling disappointed in some way. Maybe it’s really just me or maybe it’s just that my children truly don’t grasp the importance of this day to me.
Maybe I shouldn’t make Mother’s Day to be of such importance. Maybe I should just appreciate the fact I am a mother and leave it at that. Maybe…
But I would be lying to myself if I tried to pretend that there is a great deal of significance in Mother’s Day. Because a part of me just really wants to feel honored…is that so wrong?
So once again I have reminded my children several times already that Mother’s Day is Sunday. I don’t get much feedback but I guess that is pretty typical with my teens.
Then I was cleaning out some files and other things on my computer the other day and I ended up on my daughter’s school website. I saw a flashing announcement that this upcoming Thursday was “Muffins for Moms.”
“Muffins for Moms” is an annual event that I have attended since my youngest was in kindergarten. You go in before school with your children and get served by the teachers with a delicious breakfast. You walk out with a carnation.
So then I thought, “Hmm…my daughter hasn’t even mentioned this to me.” But almost immediately I realized why. She probably didn’t want to go. She is in this “would-rather-not-see-my-mother-in-my-school-phase.” But I asked anyway. I really shouldn’t have because it just confirmed what I suspected.
She said she didn’t want to go and of course, I took it personally. But I didn’t say anything to her. I thought to myself, “There goes the start to my disappointing Mother’s Day.”
Is it just me? Perhaps it’s because my children are older that I have greater expectations. But I guess maybe being in the stage they are in, they just can’t see too far beyond their own world…I don’t know. But once again I am fighting the battle to not get my hopes up, so that I won’t be disappointed.
How about you? Do you have expectations for Mother’s Day or do you treat it like any other day?
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