If you and your spouse are having problems, what can you do? A lot will depend on how long the conflict has been going on, what it is about and how serious the issue is. But you need to sit down together and talk and work through the situation. Here are some suggestions you might like to consider adopting.
If you are a believer then talk to God before you talk to your spouse. Ask God to change the heart of your spouse, so that he or she is receptive and prepared to listen to what you have to say. Maybe too you might need to see if there is anything in your heart that needs to be changed as well and any area where you are at fault.
Sometimes we can expect too much of our spouse. We expect them to meet all our needs. By doing so we are setting ourselves up for disappointment and conflict, because no human person can meet all our needs. Only God can do that. If we look to our spouse to always make us happy and fulfilled then we are always going to strike trouble because no matter how much they love us and try to make us happy there will always be times when they will disappoint us or not act as we would like them to.
Another idea is to take the initiative. It doesn’t matter if you were the one offended or upset or feel wronged, take the initiative to sort you the problem. Don’t wait for things to fester and get worse. Act to minimize the hurt and resentment by dealing with things, as they occur rather than letting the situation build up. However, a word of caution on this, it’s best not to try and sort things out when you are or your spouse are tired or rushed for time.
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