As a new mother, you can expect that many people will want to offer advice. Even if this is your fifth child, you can be sure that someone will know something that you need to know too. Although well-wishers intend to help, sometimes they can go a little too far. This problem is common among grandmothers who have already raised babies. Typically, the information shared is invaluable but some of the methods for doing things are also outdated.
Trying to determine which advice that you should listen to and which advice you should pass on can be confusing. One of the best ways you can handle this situation is to do your homework. This means talking to your pediatrician, taking parenting classes geared toward new parents, and conducting research. Even with this, you will hear different things but ask your doctor books that he or she would recommend and then use those as your guide, coupled with common sense.
The truth is that during the first few weeks of your baby’s life will be challenging. You will have nights when the baby does not want to stop crying, the baby does not want to eat, the umbilical cord is not falling off, and so on. Obviously, an experienced parent can be of huge assistance but by knowing ahead of time what to expect, as well as tips for dealing with the challenge will make these weeks easier to handle.
You also want to remember that in the first few weeks, your body and mind are tired. Even if you feel great, and are sleeping well, you have just brought life into this world. Therefore, be aware that you may not be thinking with a 100% clear mind. In fact, chances are you will find yourself feeling relieved that people offer advice, along with feeling irritated. These emotions go with the territory so you will need to be patient with those who are just trying to help.
Most hospitals today are offering new parenting classes, which we highly recommend. The insight you gain into the first weeks of life will make all the difference in the world. Then, do not be afraid to welcome help. That does not mean you have to abide by everything the person is saying but if you have a mother or close friend willing to care for the baby a few hours so you rest, take advantage. The result will be you getting up to speed quicker. Just keep reminding yourself that people who give advice are excited for you. Smile, thank them, and then follow up with your own research to determine what you should and should not do. Now, if the person is someone you trust completely, such as your mother, be grateful.