Sometimes listening to others talk, it seems that people view marriage very differently to the way Mick and I do. So often we hear stories where there are two TVs in two different rooms, so ’she can watch her shows and I can watch mine,’ one guy recently told us.
I admit I don’t watch some things Mick watches. But they’re few. He tapes them and watches them on night when I am at music practice for church or some other activity. So no, we don’t spend all our tome together. We do spend the majority and that’s one of the joys of him being retired.
But many couples appear to lead two separate lives. He is off doing his thing, while she is home with the kids and then she is of doing her things while he minds the kinds. But they never seem to be together and have time for each other. The couple, we were lunching with the other day, said how different their relationship. They told us, ’we’re best friends. We enjoy being together.’
To them that were what marriage as all about, spending time with the one you love, sharing activities together. I agree. If you find your relationship is going stale, find something you both enjoy doing and make time to do it together on a regular basis.
Don’t be like two ships passing in the night. It’s very hard to maintain any sort of relationship if you don’t see each other and actually spend time together. Remember what it was like before you were married, how you wanted to be with them and hated being apart? Why is it any different after marriage? It’s just a matter of working to maintain that time together and not get too involved with or the activities so you have no time for each other. Make sure you spend time talking over the events big and small of the day and just re-focus on each other.
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