In yesterday’s article, I asked how your weekend was and then told you about mine. I’m going to ask you to think about that question again. How was your weekend?
Jade left a comment about what she and her beau did over the weekend. She said leaf peeping and movies, but also something else I thought was very important: “…and generally just enjoyed being together.”
I wonder if she made sure to thank her man? I’m asking because yesterday I explained how Wayne did something that salvaged both my mood and the weekend. When I kissed him goodbye yesterday morning, I made sure to thank him again for an awesome weekend.
Because it was awesome. I got to spend time with him. Even if we’re doing nothing interesting, if he’s not working and I get to be with him that makes for an awesome weekend.
But this past weekend we had plans, and as a result of some of those plans I ended up feeling a little insecure and in need of some TLC. And there was Wayne, TLC bandages in hand…even though I hadn’t told him I needed the first aid kit.
Normally when he leaves for work I tell him I love him as he walks to his truck. He either gives me a little wave or says it back. But yesterday it was important to me to say, “Hey, thanks again for making the weekend awesome, pumpk. (As in short for “pumpkin.”) I’m going to have a much better day today then I would have thanks to you.”
He stopped in his tracks and turned around.
“Did it really make a difference?”
“More than you know. I love you so much for being you.”
He smiled one of those big, “I did something good” smiles before wishing me a good day and resuming his trek to his truck. This time with a little more bounce in his step. (He was leaving an hour early because he had a big day ahead he was dreading, so he wasn’t quite peppy when he first headed out.)
It was his demeanor as he walked away that made me realize there’s been times he’s had a particularly hard go of something –usually having to do with work being stressful– and I’ve done something to help him out and boost him back up. A simple thank you can light my world up, too, because I know it’s heartfelt and sincere.
But even during times when neither of us has needed a boost, when we’ve just happened to enjoy a nice simple, weekend together, saying, “Hey, you know something? I really enjoyed the time we spent together this weekend,” can have a huge impact.
So what would you say when you think about this weekend? Don’t dwell on anything bad or negative that might have befallen it. Just reflect on the good that happened. Maybe a funny inside joke you shared, or a compliment you received. It doesn’t have to be something huge. Just something good.
Now, you can either keep it to yourself, or you can tell your spouse, “Hey, you know when you did/said BLANK? I really enjoyed/liked/had fun doing/hearing/being BLANK.”
See if it doesn’t put a little smile on their face or a spring in their step.
Courtney Mroch writes about animals big and small in Pets and the harmony and strife encompassing married life in Marriage. For a full listing of her articles click here.
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