When Your Relationship Is Not Part of Your Marriage Anymore

Have you ever just stepped back and wondered what happened to the relationship with your spouse? You may be married but the relationship has ended. You go to work, come home, hardly speak and go to bed to do it all over again the next day. How much longer can you go on living without a relationship?

Many married couples will say that their relationship has lost passion. That they just don’t feel the same they did when they were first dating their spouse.

Of course they don’t, that initial phase of finding out all those exciting and crazy things about your partner is over. You know everything and there’s just nothing else that you will spontaneously find out – at least, nothing you’ll be happy about.

While this is true, it doesn’t mean that you let go of the relationship you have with your spouse. It doesn’t mean that you let go and let the marriage be what it is…empty.

A marriage is just the outer box of the relationship of a married couple. Marriage doesn’t bring two people together – it’s just the casing for it. The relationship between two people is what brings people together and keeps them there.

So what does this all mean? A relationship is what will make you feel better about the marriage you are in with your spouse. What’s missing is that relationship, not the passion.

How to Get Back the Relationship

How often do you make it a point to connect with your spouse? It’s imperative that couples who have lost their relationship interact with each other daily as much as possible. It’s just like recreating that time when you first were together. You couldn’t get enough of each other, right? Wanted to spend all your time with that person? Well, it’s about time to make that happen again.

You don’t just sit next to your spouse either. You must have quality time together. Do things that you both enjoy doing.

It’s not just the engagement of the activity that helps you form a relationship either. It’s what you do during the activity…you must talk. Big shocker – I know.

Talk about your life but also talk about your feelings, hopes and dreams. It’s probably been years since you last talked about all of those little ideas that make you excited about the future. It’s time to bring them out and share them with your spouse.

It’s going to be difficult to feel comfortable at first. You need to learn how to be with each other again. Don’t worry if it feels awkward. Don’t think it’s because your relationship is doomed.

Give it time and give it a true effort. You’ll see that as soon as you learn to relax, enjoy your time together and open up, you’ll become excited about your quality time with your spouse. You’ll start to have that long lost relationship you thought would never return.

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