If you’ve already been married for a while, this one probably won’t come as much of a surprise to you. This discussion is intended for those about to get married, and those who are newly married.
When it comes to marriage, nothing will let you down faster than a big dose of reality. Your princess or your white knight may disappear once the wedding is over and you return from your honeymoon. You will soon begin learning your spouse’s imperfections, and he or she will begin learning about yours. Finding out what the person you love is really like, on bad days and even good days, can be disorienting.
Who knew that he was a morning person who likes to get up at five and start singing at the top of his lungs in the shower? Nobody told you that your wife kept every stuffed animal that she’s been given since her birth and would insist on displaying them all in your bedroom. While you may have been attracted to your husband because he is so positive, that cheerfulness when you are at wit’s end may prove infuriating. And, what about her habit of calling her mother three times a day and telling her everything?
There are many things both large and small that will quickly make you see that everyday married life is not the blissful, romantic existence you envisioned. While the above issues can easily be dealt with, there are other issues that might not be so easily resolved. It makes sense to talk through important issues before deciding to get married, and if you were recently married, start discussing them now. Talk about money, children, careers, responsibilities, religion, politics, and anything else that is very important to you to find out how your spouse or fiancée feels about these issues, and how the two of you can come together on them.
In many cases, some sort of compromise can be achieved, but it really helps to know what you’re getting into.