Will this make my marriage stronger or will it break us apart? Have you ever asked yourself this, when faced with a life-altering event? Maybe you have never been in this place where it’s a consideration. But it was definitely something my marriage recently faced.
The situation involved one of our teenaged children and it threatened from the very beginning to crumble things. We were both reeling from the circumstances and almost immediately, finger pointing was ready to begin.
Who was at fault for this catastrophe, we seemed to be asking. I guess it’s natural to look for someone to blame.
For some reason blame helps to make sense of things, even though the one we may be blaming had nothing to do with it. Thankfully, despite the rocky start of finger pointing and the potential to experience a collapse in our marriage, we turned things around.
It all came down to choice. We both had a choice to make. We could let this circumstance hurt or help our marriage.
Without consciously making the decision, we both opted for help. We knew we couldn’t face the upcoming road without a sense of unity. There were decisions to be made and we had to make them together.
If we had gone into it any other way, perhaps we would have made the wrong decisions. We might not have been looking out for the best interests of our child and the family as a whole. Instead, we might have only been considering ourselves.
It is so very important when your marriage is suddenly faced with a catastrophe that you take the high road. You have the ability to make your marriage stronger through it or to weaken its foundation.
I can’t imagine the impact it would have had in the end on our child had we allowed this situation to tear us apart. The damage done would have been much worse.
Determine today that no matter what comes your way, you will always work with your spouse. Make a vow to never allow life’s circumstances to weaken your marriage.
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