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Blowing Off Steam

Having an ex adds a lot of undue stress in your life; have children with that ex and the stress multiplies by about a hundred…thousand…ok, it’s more like an infinite amount of stress that never ends with the signing of the decree. You’d think it get easier now that you’re not together, but it’s actually a lot harder when neither one of you is trying to make things work anymore. My ex and I try to keep things as civil as possible when it comes to Logan. I don’t want him to ever feel caught in the middle of his … Continue reading →

Why a Little Horseplay is a Good Thing

Sure, we want our children to behave. As a matter of fact, this time of year, we often require them to be “on their best behavior” more than usual—there are visiting relatives and holiday parties, church and school pageants, as well as other special occasions. For our kids this can mean a lot of time indoors and a lot of time wearing uncomfortable clothes! Not to mention, plenty of high expectations when it comes to their behavior. Our kids need a bit of release, though, even big kids. A little horseplay and getting out and blowing off some steam can … Continue reading →

An Affair Doesn’t Mean “The End”

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It may be hard to accept the idea that when your spouse has an affair, it doesn’t have to mean the marriage is over. For most men or women, betrayal is a bitter pill to swallow. It’s hard on the person who’s cheated on. It’s hard on the person who cheated. But it’s hardest on the marriage as the couple tries to recover who they were before the cheating. An affair doesn’t mean a marriage is over, but it does indelibly change the marriage. Complications Relationship experts cite over and over that affairs are not about the sex. The reasons … Continue reading →

Can we Expect Kids to Understand a Recession?

Economics are a fact of family life—as much as many of us would like to pretend they aren’t, we know that the every day lives of our families (and its members) are influenced by what is going on with the economy. As more and more of us are affected by rising costs, dropping income, and the general precariousness that a recession brings, it can be tough on our children too—especially since they often do not understand why things are changing and mom and/or dad are more stressed. It can be too much to expect young children to understand a change … Continue reading →

More Ways to Save Money on Your Summer Vacation

In my previous blog I told you about a new series I’m starting called “Saving Money on Your Summer Vacation.” With the economy faltering some families are considering giving up their annual family vacations in order to spare the household’s bottom line. However, as you saw in my last blog with a little planning there are ways you can explore the nation’s top tourist spots without going bankrupt in the process. This week I am turning the spotlight on San Diego. Now that you know what attractions you can get into for free here’s a list of some of the … Continue reading →

Thoughts on Long-Distancing It: 3 Relationship Survival Must Haves

In my “Thoughts on Long-Distancing It” series, I’ve covered how commuter marriages are born and that breakdowns are inevitable. You might have gleaned from these articles that stress is to be expected and often accompanies the situation. But stress can also be managed and doesn’t have to destroy your relationship. (Because it can if you don’t keep it in check.) The three things you must have to ensure your relationship survives the long-distancing it phase are: 1. Patience I put this first because it’s the most essential. You are going to experience turbulence in a long distance arrangement. It might … Continue reading →

Working Through Stress Together

Stuff happens, and usually when we least expect it or when we are already under pressure and just don’t think we can take any more. The unfortunate thing about becoming overwhelmed is that it is very easy to take it out on the people who are closest to us. It’s not unusual for this to occur, but it’s something we have to work to avoid. Even if you feel better temporarily after blowing off steam, it will be short lived. You’ll feel worse long term for having taken things out on your spouse. It helps to devise a system for … Continue reading →

The Power of Women’s Intuition

I believe in women’s intuition. Call it what you will — the little voice, your gut feeling, or a sixth sense — it is real, and it helps us. Experts say that we only use something like ten percent of our brains. So what’s the other ninety percent up to? Some part of your brain is recording and responding to stimuli that we may not consciously notice. Could this be the source of intuition? Your brain and body responding to something on a subconscious level? Don’t dismiss those feelings of intuition — you could be responding to signals that aren’t … Continue reading →

Top Chef Episode 1: Dissing Housewives

Bravo’s new reality series Top Chef premiered last night. I was all excited to see what the contestants would dream up and maybe learn a few culinary tips. What I didn’t expect was to have steam blowing out my ears for half the show. Indulge me a little indignant rant, if you will, on behalf of housewives everywhere. When the contestants first entered their living quarters, one of them, Dubliner Ken, took a quick tour of the kitchen and pronounced it a second-rate “housewife’s kitchen.” He then turned to the oldest female contestant and said, “You should feel right at … Continue reading →