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Should You Confront a Narcissist about their Narcissism?

16 Apr 2009 11:01 AM

Thank you for the article. After (another) large blowout with my Dad I started searching online for what might cause his nasty behavior, and to see if his behavior is normal. At 24 I think I've just found that he has a classic case of NPD. My outlook on life (and my sense of self) seems to be co-narcissistic (I doubt myself, I often think that I am worthless, I always think I am selfish). This has been very relieving for me to think about. I have purchased a few books and have been reading about how I can change my own behavior to reduce the amount of pain my father can inflict. However, my question for you is slightly different. I recently became engaged to a wonderful man - and after reading all of this, I am terrified that I am narcissistic, or will become so. Do you have any advice on how to tell if, as a child of a narcissist, you are a narcissist? Also, do you have any information on how to prevent this/treat it if it's happening? I am terrified of destroying my new marriage, and terrified of treating my children the way I've been treated. Any help would be wonderful. Thanks again for your great articles on NPD.