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Senior Marriages

29 Apr 2007 10:19 AM

This author, Gillian Markson, does not know enough to be writing this blog. My husband and I did not marry for companionship. We are just a in love as any young couple that marries. No difference. Love does not change when one gets older. Attraction does not change. Senior marriage does require more effort because of others and their feelings. Little has been written about senior feelings, it's mostly about others. Our feelings don't count. We cater and do so much, but resentment abounds because of change. We have done nothing but fall in love. Where is understanding for seniors? Ater spending our life for others, when is it our turn? Do we appear selfish because we should be more mature and be happy with our adult children, grandchildren and other adult friends? These relationships are for a reason. We love them. Yet, a husband's and wife's relationship is on a different level, especially when there is such deep love and respect for one another. Change happens when anyone marries and this is no difference when seniors marry. There is always adjustment.

We have 4 adult children, 5 grandchildren and always give each Birthday parties, attend every function for them, give lots of nice presents and financial help. We have all holidays at our home as we are the only parents left. We support emotionally and talk with them about their problems. We are not self centered seniors that expect anything except a little understanding.