Caught my 7 yr old son looking at internet porn!!

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    Susan1019

    Please help! Yesterday I caught my 7 year old son looking at internet porn, he had perused sites from woman’s private area to porn video’s, probably anywhere from 10-20 sites, not all at once but since Monday when my husband & I were in Jamaica and grandma was in “babysitting” yeah I know she’s heartbroken and said that they didn’t have those things when I was growing up. I am in shock and do not know what to do at this point. He has never given me any reason not trust him nor do we allow any type of this behavior in our home, I asked him where he got the idea to do such a terrible thing and he said it was in his mind he didn’t or wouldn’t give a direct answer. Does he need therapy? Do I discuss puberty at this point with a memorable punishment??
    Thanks,
    Susan

    #967414

    twinzplus3

    My son is almost 7. . .my first thought is where did he get the idea to do this? I mean is he curious. . .and stumbled upong it so he kept looking? Have you talked to him about sex before? Or is this something he clearly knows that he’s not supposed to be doing?

    I know for my 7yo son, I would likely not punish him to be honest. He just doesn’t know that much, isn’t really interested in girls, etc. And so likely it would be time for me to talk to him about puberty, sex and all else. (We’ve actually already talked about it a little. . .I think all parents should talk to their kids about sex as soon as they start asking questions or before they go to school.)

    I suspect that if he goes to school, it’s something that one of his friends has, that he saw or something of the like or that he has been exposed to another adult male that looks at porn. At this point, I would treat it as normal curiosity, tell him that this is not acceptable to you. . .and install some good software on your computer for blocking adult sites and/or so you can look at the history of what’s been visiting on your computer.

    I think the key question to answer, is whether or not he stumbled upon it or got the idea to go to these sites from someone else. I know if it were my son, I’d be very concerned about all adult males that he has contact with.

    #967418

    mcmama

    7 year olds don’t check this stuff out unless it is put in front of them. Either another child told him, or another male in your household or neighborhood is visiting porn sites and making it easy for your son to accidentally stumble upon them.

    He’s too young to understand puberty. Probably he heard some dirty words at school and some kid told him to google it.

    Find out from him what he thinks he saw.

    Explain to him that he is never to do those things on the computer again because it hurts both him and the computer. Your computer is probably virus central by now.

    What does grandma say actually happened?

    Spyware and adult site blockers are a good idea. That way you protect your family. Don’t give the passcodes to get around these to any other adults in your family, including your husband.

    #967423

    QueenAngie

    Welcome to the board!

    Hoping the trip to Jamaica was a good trip for you and DH.

    Yes, I’d be placing parental control locks on the puter.

    Our 1st experience was in the 4th grade with our sons, searching for information on the White House for school. Came upon a nasty site by accident. What a shock! My son immediately told us what was on the site and upset over it.

    Why did your 7 yo do this? I cannot say. I would closely monitor his activities on the puter in the future.

    Good luck!

    #967438

    Aiden&Alejandros Mommy

    Wow…I have an 8 yr old and I don’t think this has ever occured to him at all. I agree that it probably was someone in the household that was looking and may have influenced him. Have a talk about “sex” with your son….there’s no putting it off now….he needs some explanation. I would aslo not allow him to have computer acess without adult supervision in the room. Both our Computer and Lap top are upstairs..we can keep an eye on our 8 year old from the living room. We also have a folder under favorites with his name and he is only allowed to access that folder…anything else mami and daddy have to check out first.

    #967485

    Susan1019

    Thanks so much to everyone that posted a reply…I found something helpful in each message. I do have one question, should I restrict him from friends for like a week or so? We live in family oriented nieghborhood he has like 8 friends within our next door neighbors.
    Also, the computer apparently does have several viruses. I didn’t realize there was a software that would enable adult sites. I’ve changed our DirectTV to show only PG shows. I honestly do not know where he got it from, there are no other children in our household and when I looked through the history it all happened on Monday. I searched weeks to months.

    #967487

    Aiden&Alejandros Mommy

    I wouldn’t as I really don’t think he knew what he did was wrong….like I said before. I would find out who else uses that computer for that kind of thing. BTW the history can be deleted.

    #967493

    mcmama

    I would not punish him, he just has to know not to do it again and why. But where did he get the idea? That would concern me most.

    Supervise his every move on the computer.

    #967511

    twinzplus3

    Exactly what pp said. . .I wouldn’t punish my son for it either. I would so much more concerned about where he got the idea from.

    #969104

    md7mdee

    My suggestion about keeping internet porn away from your children is…only allow them online when you are available to be present.

    A 7 year old doesn’t need the internet for school report research, or to catch up on news. So, I’ll assume that they were on line for gaming or webkinz. No matter how I feel about that, you have to know that porn sites are actually targeting keywords for child porn terms. So any slip of the cursor or mis-typed word might lead them directly where you don’t want them.

    I say send them outside for their entertainment!

    #969193

    vanaden

    I really don’t understand why children are on the computer anyway? And how would he have time to do something like that with no one checking on him?
    I would punish if it was my child. That is evil.
    Slapping the child on the wrist for doing something disgusting will in no way teach him not to do it again!
    Back in the old days with paddles and switches, children were so much more in line…now a days when spanking is “child abuse” kids and teenagers are so out of control!

    #969665

    PennySteed

    Remember that he is at a curious age, first and foremost. My eldest son just turned 8, and although we have not had that incident, we have had others. Until you can find out where he got the idea to surf for porn, I would limit who he hangs around with. When my son started turning violent, that is the first thing we did. Second, if that is your only puter, then by all means start putting blocks on it, and the tv. We have what we call a dumb puter in our house, it is not hooked up to the internet, so my boys can play all the games they want, but if they want on the internet, a parent has to be there. I would not punish him, just sit down and explain to him your concerns and then be open for questions, have Daddy do it if possible. If you start punishing him for this, then he is going to think that he is doing something wrong and dirty. Is it appropriate, by all means, no. But we have to be careful how we present things to our little guys, if we tell them that it is off-limits, then they are just going to try to find ways around your rules.
    Before you ask, no I do not have porn in my house, my cable is blocked, and if DH is looking at it, then he is doing it when no one else, including me, is aware of it. Yes, we have had that discussion with both our 8 and 5 year boys. They were both caught in the bathrooms (seperately) with other kids looking at each others private parts.
    Have fun with your talks, they are only going to get more interesting from here on out.

    #970937

    jimer014

    Hi I’m 17 and Not to be Rude, But most of you people along with the general public are ignorant plain and simple!! It is perfectly healthy and natural for your son (regardless of age) to have sexual desire and feelings. Adults have this distorted veiw of reality for how kids are supposed to behave, and of how they are supposed to act. While it is true that not all kids develop sexual feelings until puberty, everyone develops at their own level. They are ready, when they are ready! There is no such thing as to young. We have all this violence, drugs, gangs corruption going on around us, yet you give kids the image that sex is dirty terrible and bad. And when you here adults moaning or fast forward a sexual scene in a movie that horrble acts are occuring betweens them with unspoken words. When in fact peace and love making is the most beutiful thing in existence. I for example first masturbated to orgism when I was 4 years old. And at 7 years old in second grade there was this girl in school I loved whom I had constant thoughts of being intimate and sexual desire towards. Throughout my entire childhood I pretended to act a certain way around adults because I knew they thought of me as their innocent little boy. Fact is true innocence is not lack of knowledge, but rather lack of guilt. I remember being 8 years old and having others kid pairs which would touch each other, make out or talk sexual with or infront of me. And as long as their were adults present I always had to say things like eww thats gross, or shhh don’t talk like that they will hear you!! Or what if your dad walks in on us, it’s not safe. When you understand the concept of how the universe operates, and how enegy flows you can see things more clearly for how they really are. I don’t care what you say, kids are sexual beings! You have all been delusioned into believing otherwise by a brain washed society. Those magical years and creative ways of thinking and seeing things are detroyed as we grow up, and the more exposure we have to the poions toxics, mind control and manipulatin all around us the more easy it is to control us all! And that is exactly why the goverment gets away all the harm and secrets they having been using against the public, forming a new one world order, and why we are all doomed! Because of ignorance!

    #971768

    Swimkidsmom3

    I would say either he stumbled upon it or a friend did. I have two boys 12 and 14 and I can remember the 12 year old working on a school project. I was in the kitchen (where our computer is) and he went to what he thought was a web site that could help. Wrong…it was a porn site. We quickly left that site and cleared out the history. Sometimes I think porn site use names that kids will go to, just to attract them.
    Karen

    #994338

    pellis

    hi susan,

    I have just joined this forum and saw your thread. i have a daughter around the same age and am very worried about what the Internet has to “offer”. A friend of mine told me to buy some parental control software.

    After a very big search I found this[URL="http://www.sentryparentalcontrols.co.uk/"] fantastic parental control software[/URL] called Sentry Parental Controls. They have a 15 day free trial. I used it and purchased a year license five days into it. I can control as much or as little as I like on the Internet. So many options to list in this post.

    Take a look and hope this at least prevents some of your son’s activity on the net:

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