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How to Keep Your Marriage on Track - Blog Entry

29 Mar 2009 06:21 PM

How about some tips on Aspergers and Marriage. The main componant of Aspergers is the inability to communicate with their partner and the non aspergers partner can't communicate their needs to the as person. Communication is what all successful marriages have. Many of these marriage tips don't apply to Aspergers people or partners in marriages.

Some great research, insight and problem solving into the challenges of an asperger marriage would be appreciated!

Cheers Caz

Narcissism-Symptoms and Treatment (1) - Blog Entry

02 Sep 2008 01:18 AM

Thanks Beth,

I have read all of your information on Aspergers. The information has been very insightful and invaluable.

My husband does believe he has Aspergers after some research on his part and looking back into his past. It all fits. This revelation has made our lives much easier because he acknowledges Aspergers.

He meets most of the criteria. He has an astounding mathmatical brain, but can't do simple everyday things, gets lost easily and lacks common sense (I'm just presenting facts) He doesnt like to make eye contact ánd has a few very intense hobbies that he can talk about until the cows come home. His knowledge about those subjects is amasing. He won't go to social events... if he does he is extreamly anxious.

There are also many other constant, repeditive, annoying behaviours that drive me crazy ..especially when i'm alone with him all weekend....Bless his soul..; ) I'm not sure how i will stay sane. He is fine! You are right though, self diagnosis from the internet can prove to be very wrong and therefore not helpfull at all. There are so many possibilities that can cause unhappyness either with ones self or a partner.

Thanks for your help and i will contact you on your website.

Cheers, Caz

Narcissism-Symptoms and Treatment (1) - Blog Entry

31 Aug 2008 07:18 PM

hi BETH,

I suppose my question is can Aspergers also incorperate Narcism, or is the seemingly a narcisitc personality not clinical narcism, but part of Aspergers.

My husband has Aspergers syndrome. I've been reading up for the past 2 years, joined support groups etc and can understand his behaviour so much more. Still sometimes it's extreamly difficult and many times I waver on the edge of deep depression. I've been snapping in and out of that for 20 years. I cope with more understanding my coping mechanisms are becoming stronger.

He has also been on benzodiazapines for the last 22 years and recently came off them(which was a huge step and it took four years to be completely free of them) I didnt know for those 22 years because of his secretive personality and inability to communicate.

He is extreamly vain, but quiet in social situations but there are many facits of NPD that he fits into. The world does revolve around him. He is vain. He is only interested in his own point of view. No one else exists. Its really just the children and I that see this though.

For me it's been a very intense journey trying to support him. He won't seek help. Aspergers is diagnosed in the family (Nephew) I'm quite tired but still looking for answers.

Thanks, Caz