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January 30, 2010 at 3:44 pm #194188
Welcome! I am starting this thread to discuss issues regarding behavioral concerns with our children. Please post your stories and get help or valuable feedback from other members.January 30, 2010 at 5:23 pm #1041008
Here is a good article that I found online that has some good parenting and behavioral tips.
[URL="http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2641099/are_you_a_good_parent.html?cat=25"]http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2641099/are_you_a_good_parent.html?cat=25[/URL]February 17, 2010 at 4:40 am #1041395
Thanks for the link to that article on discipline and common sense. I think it’s sometimes easy to lose your temper and forget common sense.
I read the helicopter parenting article (it’s linked on the bottom of the article above) and that’s also great. I try not to be a helicopter mom, but I do fit some of their descriptions!May 7, 2011 at 10:35 pm #1046277
I could write a collection of articles about my son’s behavior at school. During the classes he would be playing and laughing, between classes, he would often fight.
The fact that he was playing during the class, did not disrupt his studying, he was able to play and listen simultaneously, but it would bother with his schoolmates. I would beg, try to persuade, explain why he should not behave like that, he would be calm for a while, but then continue as usual. I went to school willingly and by invitation, consulted educators, psychologists, teachers …
The general opinion was that the work in the classroom could not fully animate him, so he filled rest of the time with games. Teachers, indeed, could not do much about it. In the classroom with 30 pupils with different abilities, classes had to be adjusted for the average, for very good and very bad pupils there was not time.
He did not talk much and was unable to verbally oppose the children’s disputes, so he faugh them. It was his way of resolving conflicts. Of course, a fight would only further complicate the situation and would involve parents and teachers. Even today I cannot understand why he was behaving like that, there was not any form of aggressiveness in our family, and the children were not physically punished, they were rarely punished in any ways.
I would explain him that any disagreement could not be resolved by fighting, would go again to school by invitation and voluntarily, but there was no change. I really felt helpless. Then he began to practice karate fights, he had several important results in competitions, and a few bruises and scratches on his face after the fight.
By the end of primary school he stopped fighting, but he still found it hard to tolerate insults and dirty words, that the children of that age usually say unaware of their meaning. At the second year of high school, there was a big change: he became insensitive to any insult and bad behavior against him, as if he was not concerned.
In my experience, disciplinary penalties have poor results. It is needed the cooperation of parents and teachers, many conversations with the child, even more patience to teach the child about acceptable limits of behavior, and that their behavior should not be a threat to anyone. As you might conclude, it takes a lot of time, too.
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