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Adults with Asperger's Disorder - Blog Entry

17 Sep 2008 03:19 PM

Both my neighbour and i have a partner who seems to fit some of these charateristics. Notably, both are very intelligent, have fantastic university results and have high paying jobs. However they have little understanding of emotional intelligence and have minimal understanding of emoitional family situations. They dont participate in giving or needing any emotional support. Mostly they are only able to understand how they feel, and the whole household revolves around their moods. My relationship feels more like a business relationship, as that it is about factual things. Humour is fine though. Their interaction with other people is minimal and they are both hugely critical of everyone else. They dont understand their personalities and humour and have little or no compassion, and dislike giving or receiving generosity. A total hate is any family event, Christmas, the sitting down and eating with either of our families and the talking that goes with it is just hated with many opting out techniqes being thought up. He feels like we are all a millstone round his neck. No body can win an argument with him, and trying to explain what and why is such a huge effort because he doesnt see the effect of his inquisitions has on us. We used to have a huge sexual relationship, but now I think it was only a mechanisim for him to release stress. As a previous poster mentioned, my husband never looks in my eyes while we are having sex, it just feels to me that he is having sex with my body. Many people and topices bore him. He hates being spontanious. He has huge issues with bowel irritations but is unwilling to figure out what is going on. He hates the mornings and takes till 10 or later to function in the weekend. Both my neighbour and I have noticed that our partners have had their Father leave their family when they were at preschool age. Can this have something to do with their iniability to have close giving and receiving relationships?

Thank you Beth.