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Narcissism-Symptoms and Treatment (1)

08 Apr 2008 04:15 AM

I have been reading about NPD & other personality disorders for the past 6 years trying to understand and hoping to learn how to deal with my husband who I think has a disorder of some type. One minute he can be very understanding, sympathetic, caring, loving, giving and other times be very selfish, self centered,my opinions don't count for anything, my wants don't matter, my needs don't matter, expects me to wait on him hand and foot. If discuss an issue about our finances for instance...He'll talk logicly with me and then turn around and do the opposite. He keeps putting us in financial stress because of the things that HE wants.... a house we couldn't afford...2 cars we couldn't afford...and keeps our credit cards maxed. When I try to talk him out of these decision before they happen, I'm always told not to worry about it...or Your not paying for it...or some other irrational reason. or throws a temper tantrum if he doesn't get his way. He has broken so many promises over the years to me....and they are all money related. For instance, hes been telling me for 7 years that I can stay home and do my art( I've been an Artist my whole life) take care of the house and him and do my art. He doesn't need my money. Well, that situation hasn't happened since we met. I don't have time to tell you the entire story right now...I have to go to work. But I do need to talk with some one...I am very frustrated and don't know what to do, or handle the situation.