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Non-Muslim Woman: Should You Marry a Muslim Man?

05 May 2009 09:37 PM

I am married to a muslim man for the last 13 years. We have two boys together. It is so difficult coming from two backgrounds, cultures and religions. I love him dearly and he is a great man, but it takes a toll on both of us. My best advice for the girl considering marrying a muslim man would be to meet the mother BEFORE marrying him, and if she doesnt approve you should take this as a sign of future problems to come. I would not encourage you to pursue it further if the mother does not accept you lovingly and liberally BEFORE you are married. I did not meet his family before the marriage, and I feel like a complete idiot that I did not learn about everything beforehand (family, religion, cultural differences etc.) I think generally it is true that muslim men become more religious as they grow older and especially as they have children. It is how they are trained to be. If you are very open to the faith and have explored it deeply and the family loves and accepts you then it may work out well for you. I am lucky enough to have a kind and understanding husband who is very liberal in many ways and luckily his family is respectful to me. Otherwise, we could not make it work out. Hope this advice might help someone if they are seriously considering marriage.