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Surviving Separation

05 Feb 2009 02:40 PM

My husband, too, is asking for trial separation... we have actually begun the process. I am living away from home (because my job has sort of necessitated it) and he has the boys with him. I miss them all so much. I call H when I can, and we are trying to talk through things. When this process first began we never talked, and he even was considering starting a relationship with someone else. We have healing to do, and I am trying to respect his need for space. This is hard for me. I'm missing him terribly, and worried that he will decide to leave me and go with his other woman. He promises that it has ended with her, but what if we can't work things out? I need to have patience and trust in the process a little bit more than I usually do.

For the first time today when we were on the phone he agreed that maybe couples counseling would be a good idea for us. This is a huge step because a month ago he wanted nothing to do with it.

I am praying that we can make this work. I know what I did to contribute to the problems. I am eager to fix this. I hope he will join me.