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Coping with an adult with Asperger's (4) - Blog Entry

24 Jan 2008 11:25 PM

I'm 98% certain that my husband has Asperger's Syndrome to some degree. How do we get a professional diagnosis? Our family physician refered him to a counselor, but it seems that both the doctor and the counselor were concerned more about his depression and anxiety; things they felt they could treat. Months have gone by and we back to square one. My poor husband knows there's something wrong and longs to connect successfully with others yet remains clueless. He has a toxic self-esteem, drowns daily in self-pity and keeps a stew-pot of hostility on low simmer. He engages heavily in fantasy and/or worry. We've lived paralell lives for nearly twenty years. Needless to say, our relationship is very tenuous. He is extremely defensive; anything I say can and will be misconstrued. I don't even have to say anything--just make a face he doesn't like and he'll throw his glasses across the room or throw his wallet to the floor in Walmart. He has stopped seeing the counselor (they counselor told him the same things I do) and stopped taking antidepressants. This has effected every area of our lives. Please help.